Wish we hadn't said anything...

[IcingOnTheNappyCake]

Hey there! I'm 26+3 today and so we know we're having a little girl and decided to come up with a few names we like and we absolutely LOVE the name Alice. The thing is, we didn't want to keep it from the family, but now I wish we had, because the MIL sings that bloody song who the f* is Alice every time I see her! I've tried explaining (in the nicest way possible) that I don't want people telling us where else they've heard any names we've chosen, and that not many people under 35 have ever heard this song! I know none of my friends had!! Feeling really down now because I really love that name and so does my OH but I'm starting to get hormonal annoyed whenever we are around her. Any suggestions to stop me saying something or clipping her around the back of the head would be appreciated

[Chocotrekkie]

My mum did this - said if we were having a boy it would be robin. Sung some old "robin hood robin hood riding through the glen..." song every time.
Had 2 girls but totally put me off.

Alice is lovely..

[Offcolour]

Alice is lovely. Ignore mil.

[MolotovCocktail]

What a shame for you! And how rude of your MIL. I guess this is a lesson as to why toy should never reveal baby's name before the birth (don't listen to me - I blacked to my DM and my auntie well in advance of both dd's births :) )

Maybe get your OH to have a word with his DM? And if she's still being rude, maybe say something like 'Excuse me? Stop being so rude about your granddaughter's name'.

FWIW, Alice is lovely, IMO :)

[MolotovCocktail]

OMG! My autocorrect is bloody embarrassing!

'you' not 'toy'
'blabbed' not 'blacked'

[AnythingNotEverything]

We might have an Alice too

I agree with the pp - tell her to sop being so rude about ER grand daughter. Why do people think thy have a say?!

Excellent choice.

[AnythingNotEverything]

Her granddaughter, obviously!

[phantomhairpuller]

My MIL does exactly this! I'm nearly 39 weeks and we still have no names we're really fond of thanks to that bloody woman! Everything we suggest we get 'ooh no that reminds me of xyz' or 'oh, does that not make you think of so and so'. We're now not going to even mention names to anyone until DS is born and we introduce him as whatever we choose to call him!

[Jellykitten1]

I think you should say something. Not all confrontational but something like...

"MIL, it's really nice that we have all have a little giggle about the "who the is Alice" song since we mentioned the name. But the other night, I got a bit upset about it because hearing the word next to our baby's name just felt a bit horrible. Would you mind if we don't sing the song again? That would be great. Hey, have you got any suggestions for the middle name to go with Alice?" (big smile)

No need to let it fester or get her back up. By suggesting you've all been enjoying the little joke with her she won't feel singled out, and getting her to think up middle names gives her something more productive to do with the name Alice than sing a really awful song about it

[purrpurr]

Please tell your MIL to stop being rude. Love the name Alice!

[FoofFighter]

Ahh you've learned the age old lesson of NEVER reveal your name choices to ANYONE!!

I have an Alice. My GM hated it and said everyone would call her A lice. as in headlice. stupid old bat

Nobody did, everyone loved it and fwiw she thinks the song is great now she's 21!

[IcingOnTheNappyCake]

Thank you so much for all your support! I keep trying to say something but she's one of those typical old bats women that think whatever they say is right (if we had a boy she insisted the middle (or first) name would be Donald!!!!!!) You know the sort that start with "I won't tell you how to live your life BUT" I just don't want to be around her anymore! I find it really difficult to not snap at her! I've considered telling a little porky and saying we've changed our mind and then just when the baby gets here name her what we like? should've kept my mouth shut!!

[Hedwig3]

You need to think of a name which she will like even less.

Then tell her that she has really put you off Alice so you have chosen this other name. As she thinks it worked before she will keep going on about the new name to put you off.

Then you announce your new daughter Alice. It is too late and she may even be relieved if she really disliked the other name!

I have an annoying and controlling MIL too but the most annoying thing is that she has the MIL of everyone's dreams

[ShadowStorm]

I like Hedwig3's suggestion about finding a name she'll like even less.

[IcingOnTheNappyCake]

I think i might have to do this, might cheer me up when were at their house anyway, she might just go back to pointing out how spotty ive gotten with pregnancy - shes a charmer i tell you thank you for so many supportive replies xx

[tomatoplantproject]

I'm an Alice. That song was the bane of my life a few years ago - it was rereleased. But it hasn't been mentioned for years. A couple of people have noticed the A Lice. But that's it.

The things that really annoyed me growing up were Alice in Wonderland (esp when I can be a bit dozy) and being called Alison.

Ignore her. It's not a bad name to have

[MummyBurrows]

I love the name Alice,its my tied with my current fave name if me and my DH find out our DC is a girl!

MILs can be a right pain,mine is a nightmare at times and I found the only way to deal with her is to not mince my words and tell her outright exactly what I think or how I feel about something. Perhaps do the same thing with ur MIL? May well shut her up. Also think coming up with a name u know she'll hate to get off her the alice song is a great idea! Perhaps say ur guna call ur DD Doris or Mildred for example or a strong foreign name of some sort if she's a bit racist ;) xx

[rowtunda]

Alice is lovely - ignore MIL completely

Ps I'm 32 and remember the song but who cares!

[Catsycat]

This is the sort of annoying thing my mother would do. Fortunately, our 3 girls have really unusual names. She does, however, exercise her wit by referring to them as "your bisto kids", which makes me grind my teeth.

If you can't bear it next time, just leave the room and let her make of that what she will.

Of course, you could tell her politely that you don't like it, but it depends whether it would be worth your while, i.e would the likely response of all parties involved be worth getting the irritation off your chest, or would more stress ensue. I tend to save direct confrontation for the massive issues my MIL and DM both occasionally choose to interfere in, so it retains impact. If I picked up every annoying thing they did, it would be a war zone (I, on the other hand, have no annoying habits and always behave perfectly ).

[KittenOfDoom]

Thing is, there will always be someone who sings that song at you and your daughter. (Even if it's the original clean version). It's inevitable with any name that features in a popular, famous or catchy song. And even if you avoid "song names", you never know if some new song will come out .....

[GirlOutNumbered]

My MIL hated the fact that we chose Henry. She keeps calling him Hooray Henry, insisting that everyone else will too. They don't.

[taurean]

I have an Alice, never had any reference to that song which at 35 I'm only vaguely aware of!!

[KittenOfDoom]

It will happen, sometime, someplace.

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

I have never heard of this song but if it is something your MIL thinks is hilarious promise her you'll tell DD what Granny used to sing when she's old enough.

Talking of middle names: if she is angling for influence I'd tell her quietly what a shame she doesn't like Alice since you thought it went well with her name... Oh well!

Alice is a classic name don't be put off it by some daft song.

[CheeseStrawWars]

Tell her she's showing her age.