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Worrying 12w scan result - in need of happy endings...

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MademoiselleG · 28/06/2014 19:36

From last week's scan, it seems that our baby's brain isn't developing normally. The consultant couldn't be more specific about it (but was extremely concerned, not even attempting to give us any hope at all) and wants us to wait for the baby to grow more so they can take better measurements.

We were going to have the scan in 2 weeks but have managed to secure an early appointment for this Monday- now I am suddenly terrified. I have been brave for dh and dd and went to work and held my head high, but tonight I just feel terribly sad, as if the enormity and unfairness of it all had suddenly hit me in one go.

If you have stories that start like ours but ends happily, please share...

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MrsWinnibago · 28/06/2014 21:04

I'm so sorry. Sad Well...I will give you my friend's story. She was told that he DD would be very badly brain damaged and a condition which I can't remember unfortunately was suspected....she went ahead with the pregnancy though and her DD was fine.

I wish I could remember what they said the baby had...I hope your scan turns out fine....I really do.xxx

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MademoiselleG · 28/06/2014 21:11

Oh thank you MrsWinni . Not many stories so far at all - I was starting to despair that there just might not be any!

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ComeHeather · 29/06/2014 09:15

had 12 week scan which said baby might have chromosome disorder that is "incompatible with life" (didn't twig what that meant til later on that day. ..no explanation givenSad). had to wait to 18 weeks for final confirmation....horrible time waiting.

18 weeks. ..All fine!

He's sitting next to me here on the sofa aged 7. driving me mad with mine craft. fit. healthy. etc

fingers crossed for you x

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MademoiselleG · 29/06/2014 10:42

That's brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much! I keep praying that they have made a mistake and that all is well.

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MrsWinnibago · 29/06/2014 12:00

Do keep posting here Mademoiselle I suspect more people will be over here soon and you can get more support.x

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MademoiselleG · 29/06/2014 14:29

Thank you. I hope they will be.
I just feel so sad and empty. And cruel for considering terminating this pregnancy if news are bad. And equally bad for thinking about bit terminating, then remembering how much this would affect dd and all of us... Tomorrow 3pm can't come soon enough...

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Tranquilitybaby · 01/07/2014 00:49

How are you doing? Thinking of you x

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MrsWinnibago · 01/07/2014 07:24

Yes me too.x

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lunar1 · 01/07/2014 07:27

Thinking about you today, I hope you get some good news.

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Rachie1986 · 01/07/2014 07:30

Thinking of you today xx

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thoughtsbecomethings · 01/07/2014 07:32

Thinking of you as I have been through the same but mine was not a happy outcome Hmm
Fingers crossed for good news Smile x

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MademoiselleG · 01/07/2014 21:55

Hello all,
baby was totally in the wrong position to make the all important measurements...still in limbo.
We are going to see Pr. Nikolaides at the Fetal Medicine Clinic in 2 weeks though - he's an expert on this matter, as is our current sonographer, who is so good he is actually off teaching somewhere in the US that week. He couldn't confirm 100% but looked pretty stern and kept saying how sorry he was for us...
So still in limbo-ish, but in my head, I have written off this pregnancy.

Thank you all for the hand-holding x

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