I am so sorry if this is insensitive to anyone on this thread, I just don't know where else to turn.
I am 42. 2 DCs, aged 6 and 5. I have just found out I am pregnant, possibly up to 12 weeks (v irregular cycle, condom failure probably, carelessness).
I feel sick with fear. I face the worst decision of my life. To have a third child would mean giving up a hard-fought for career, a lot of financial sacrifice for our family, and probable unhappiness on my part (was deeply unhappy as a sahm). We could not give our existing dcs what we had hoped to, and we would have to go back to a stage which quite honestly both DH and I are glad to have moved on from. The risks of abnormalities are higher, and I will be in my seventies when this child would be approaching 30. But... the thought of termination is anguishing.
I have told dh but no-one else; he says we will work through it together, but I know that he does not want a third (is 46 and has v demanding job). I also know I need to see my gp but am away on a work trip curerntly.
Does anyone know where I can get some confidential advice? I rang bpas but was crying at the time and could hardly speak, plus they wanted all sorts of details to book an appointment which i could not face giving. Sorry again to anyone this offends, I know there are many with more awful dilemmas than this.
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worstdecisionofmylife · 12/11/2012 17:54
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