Just need to offload and not sure where I can do it - can't go on the choices threads as no longer no anyone there and have nothing to offer anyone else.
It's this time of year - I hate it.
Two years ago -
Bad nuchal scan last week, amnio on my birthday, diagnosis of probable terminal heart condition on DD's birthday, still pg and puking at her party. She even remembers (god knows how) that I had a baby in my tummy at it. Nearly divorced over it the day of my sisterinlaws and best friend;s birthday parties. Termination at 18 weeks at the end of Sept.
All these events and anniversaries don't stop. Every year I'll have these dates I've got to celebrate and every year they just remind me of that 6 weeks when we waited to know if we should terminate or not.
I knew last year would be bad as it was the first anniversary - but thought it would get easier. Does it mean that DDs birthday will be blighted for me forever? Her labour already is - when i think of labour all I think of is the pain of giving birth to my 2 dead boys (I miscarried at 19 weeks less than a year later but that's another story) I no longer remember the joy of giving birth to a live baby.
And I'm infertile and old and unlikely to ever have another child and I feel so blessed to have my DD - feel like she's a miracle. But it hurts still and I'm so tired of it and the feeling of being cursed. I don't know anyone who's been through a fraction of what I have. Infertility and a terminal condition and then a late miscarriage. Everyone else who has losses goes on to have another child. Not us. Have become a bitter old hag, and all the joyful occasions are full of bad associations.
ANyway. Thanks for the MN ear.
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peanuthead · 31/08/2011 13:34
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