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Pnd did it go?

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Sweetpea86 · 09/07/2014 19:40

Hi I have a 3 month old baby and I had a really tough pregnancy I had awful sickness the whole way through amongst other things and ended up having an emergency c section.

I feel now I'm finding my feet and routine with baby and I'm now way saying its easy but I feel I'm coping well.

BUT I have major anxiety and these horrible intrusive thoughts and it's making me scared to go far with baby. All there're awful stories of pedoophiles and sex attackers. All the awfully story's on there news they effect me.

Every time we go out in the car I worry were going to die.

Were going on Holiday in October and instead of worrying oh I've got 6 month old I'm worrying about something going wrong with aeroplane. Or someone kidnapping my baby on holiday. It's becoming worse and worse.

My doctor prescribed me sertratline has any body had these before.

I guess I just wanted to vent butter also ask if any body else feels like this. Will it ever go :(

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ShutTheFuckUpBarbara · 10/07/2014 07:55

Hi OP.

I have never had these symptoms although I had PND so unfortunately I can't offer much insight.

You are doing the right thing seeing your GP; when did you start on the medication?

I had more "standard" PND, with the same symptoms I had had during previous bouts of depression, and it gradually went away by the time DD was about 14 months I think.

Hang in there OP, you are getting help and you are bound to get better Thanks

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ValarmorghulisArya · 10/07/2014 08:54

Hello sweet pea,
I had my baby in January but my intrusive thoughts and anxiety started way before that. I became irrational and just cried through most days.
I started fluoxetine in February and it has taken this long to get better. I know that you think you are alone but I do know that it will get better. Just take each day as it comes. Take help from family and friends. Enjoy your baby. Mine made me feel like it was worth going on.
I hope u take comfort in the fact that this will go away and you will learn to cope.
All the best.

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StoneTheFlamingCrows · 10/07/2014 09:08

I think worrying about out dc is something that stays with us for life as mothers! BUT, what you are feeling is clearly extreme and very intrusive, and is obviously a symptoms of your increased anxiety levels at the moment.

You will probably find that with time and as you get better, these thoughts will get easier to cope with and decrease to a more "normal" level. But we do all get then from time to time, I feel I have changed emotionally since I had dc, I have increased empathy for other parents and children, and horrible stories in the media do affect me more than they used to. I went on a 2 month trip to India with dd last year when she was 2, and I too had times when I would lie in bed at night thinking the worst, would she be kidnapped, get sick, get run over/be in car accident (roads are awful out there). But we were all fine. Thankfully it is still incredibly rare for these bad things to happen, we all made it to grown-ups after all!

So to summarise, it is normal to sometimes worry, even irrationally about our dc. But I am certain you will find that as you get on an even keel emotionally these thoughts will become less and less frequent and far easier to cope with and rationalise.

I had pnd, and everything feels like such a struggle, but there is light at the end if the tunnel, and things do get better. Enjoy your trip! I found taking reasonable sensible precautions and feeling prepared helped me relax and feel safe.

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StoneTheFlamingCrows · 10/07/2014 09:10

Sertraline is a really good ssri for anxiety btw. Just give it time to work as you may feel a but more jittery for a few days or so before you get used to it. I found anti-ds just made me feel more myself and just ok/content about things.

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StoneTheFlamingCrows · 10/07/2014 09:15

I also find the most basic things help me feel better emotionally and see things more clearly.

Get plenty of sleep, eat well, take time out to relax and get some exercise (I find running and yoga the best). All my darkest and most anxious moments were when I had not been sleeping, and my stress levels always rise if I don't set aside protected time to relax. Also try and get out every day and mix with other people. It's good to talk even if it is just chitchat, and stops thoughts escalating. My saving grace was probably going back to work. I 'm not cut out to be a sahm! We are all much happier since I went back. Smile

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nobodysawmedoit · 14/07/2014 14:52

Yes, it will go away. But some level of anxiety about the safety of your children will go on for the rest of your life. I get calls from my grandmother wanting to check her baby (my mum, aged 63) is ok...

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