pregnancy depression??

[fruitypie]

Hi...just after some advice. I'm 19+2 with my first and I think I may be depressed. I'm very lucky in that I have a good job that I love, I love my husband and he is very supportive, we have just moved into a lovely new home and we don't have any major money concerns. But I can't help just feeling so upset, tearful and miserable ALL of the time.

I constantly snap and shout at my husband over nothing and I know this upsets him terribly and knowing this makes me worse. I cry over everything and anything. I feel so stupid as this is an amazing time in my life and there are people in this world who are genuinely struggling and yet I feel so sad all the time.

I lost a baby at 26 weeks 6 years ago now and I constantly obsess over this. I understand that this is a different pregnancy and from what doctors/midwives etc have said our baby is really healthy and what happened in my last pregnancy was a 1 in 1000 chance of happening but still I can't stop thinking about it. I've tried excercising more and talking to my husband...this picks me up for about an hour then I'm back in my crappy horrible mood. I really don't want to have to tell my midwife or GP about it as I really don't know what they'll be able to do??

Has anyone else been through or is going through this?

[Freyaee]

Hi Fruitypie, that sounds very difficult, I'm sorry you're feeling so low. I haven't experienced this myself, but I wanted to encourage you to talk to your midwife about it. She will have encountered these feelings in other mothers and will know whether to refer you to someone for counselling. I am sure that the memory of your stillbirth will be incredibly upsetting, and it will no doubt be causing you huge amounts of anxiety now, but you have to remember that this is a different pregnancy as you said yourself.
Try talking to your husband and close friends and family too, if anyone can cheer you up, they can, and if you really are depressed, you must speak to a professional, they will now how best to treat it.
Wishing you happiness and the best of luck.

[Pandajc81]

Hi I'm 22 weeks - first post on here but feel exactly the same. I haven't lost a child previously but that I think is one of the things worrying me as a first time mum.
I have been signed off work for 3 weeks ( in my second week now). So far it has been put down to commuting to work and stress. My sister in law called every time i had a low day so was always blubbing. she told me it wasn't right and to go see the doctor. Saw the doctor and just started crying. Was so embarrassing and uncontroleable. ( i must have looked a wreck coming out of there). He signed me off and gave me a local self referral number to contact ( haven't plucked up the courage yet).
I think there has been about 4 days that I haven't cried in my time off work time so far ( those days were occupied with blitzing my home). I'm feeling so low and don't even feel like leaving the house. I feel so alone and there are not that many websites that talk about feeling this low when being pregnant.

My husband is trying but doesn't understand and sometimes makes it worse. I also feel like non of my friends understand. ( well maybe 2 but they live far away and have Psycholog degrees).

I had occupational health call me today. they have advised me to "go have fun". hard to do when everyone is at work. but I'm going to see if I can pluck up the courage to go swimming every other day. (she advised doing exercise, meeting up with friends). They are trying to work a way where I can do a gradual return to work also to stop the commute being so long.

Tomorrow I am going to try and have a good day without getting emotional. ( crossing fingers) and maybe go for a walk ( if its not raining)

Speak to your Midwife/GP they will know what to do and who to refer you to. Its not going to be a miracle cure straight away but just talking to someone who can understand will slightly lift that pressure.

[Tammyhiles]

Depression in pregnancy does exist

I was horribly depressed from about 24 weeks pregnant. I was having a much wanted and planned baby but felt sad, low, lifeless, devastated, guilty. I didn't use medication as it wasn't offered until after the birth but my GP was extremely helpful and kind and a good listening ear.

Use this Depression forum to discuss more.