Age gap & fear of the dreaded post natal returning...A little help please..

[itmustbemetime]

Im 33 & my hubby nearly 40,we have 2 boys aged 12 and 9 ,we have decided to try for our last child,but problems concerning me are ,is the age us as parents and the age gap between my children going to be an issue ?
I have thought long and hard and weighing up the pro's and negative's but still cant find to be totally ok with it ! (i can be sometimes abit of a stresshead !).....

My second issue is i suffered badly with postnatal depression on my second,and my mother took on alot while i was poorly,i have told her our plans for another baby but her reaction wasnt as pleaseing as i would of hoped,but i can understand ,it was horrible for her to see her daughter like that....(my mus in her early 50's & had 5 kids before 23 ! Wonderwoman ! )

But i do feel there are alot more different factors this time round,nearly 10 years later,my hubby knows he wasnt a helping father ,and has promised and is looking forward this time round to being a hands on dad,and other factors are we are seattled,we have a wonderful relationship with our two boys,i dont crave a social life like i did back 10 years ago,and i love every minute of being a mum....
we are going to speak with the doctor about any help i could receive if there was a chance of pnd returning....
i think my concern is my mother will be watching me too closely which in my mind i dont know if i could handle ...waiting for the moment to say " i told you so ! "....
sorry for blabbering ,im just feeling a tad confused and dont know whats right or wrong :(

[COCKadoodledooo]

PND with one doesn't mean it's a given with a subsequent pregnancy/baby. Age gaps will work if the child is loved and wanted.
Will come back and say more later when I have a proper keyboard!