Would be grateful of any advice especially from anyone else who might be in the same boat.
I?m 16 weeks pregnant with twins following our second go at IVF. These are much longed for babies and I?ve definitely spent a lot of the last few months being very happy at being pregnant.
The problem now is that I?m also feeling pretty low too and I don?t know why or what the best thing to do is.
I?m incredibly worried about losing one or both of my babies and perhaps what I?m feeling is a result of this extreme anxiety?
Both DH and I are worried that we are having twins ? and that certainly makes me feel less ?in control? ? but on the other hand, I know that I?m excited about the prospect of two children after having spent so long thinking I might have none, so I?m not entirely sure that?s it either.
I don?t know whether this is a reaction in some way to all the pain and stresses of infertility and then going through IVF? I don?t know if others who have gone through IVF have felt the same?
My job is usually very stressful and I found telling work about the pg very difficult. We are a small business and we have lost a fair amount of income during the recession and over the last week it?s become clear that next year could be even tougher, as a result I know that my maternity cover costs will put a real strain on our budgets. On the other hand my boss has actually been really supportive about the pg ? i.e. I?m probably being paranoid and overly worried!
I?ve started to tell a few people about the pg in the last week or so, but I don?t really want to do this. Instead I would prefer it if I didn?t have to share the news with anyone. Is this some kind of protective mechanism?
When I think about the lovely wriggly babies I saw at my scan or when I pat my bump, I?m happy and totally in love with these two little ones. The problem is that the rest of the time I just seem to be consumed by feelings of sadness and worry and feel very teary.
Any advice or hand-holding would be welcome. Is the best starting place to talk to my midwife? And just to say that I?m so terribly sorry to be so down when I feel like I should be so happy but I?m imagining that will hopefully go down okay on this board.
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Teds77 · 13/02/2012 15:34
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