Has anyone terminated due to antenatal depression?

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lee006 Sun 05-Feb-12 11:37:33

Sorry for the long post!
I'd already terminated one pregnancy, I felt extremely sad about it, but it was a very black and white decision and I terminated early.

I'm 43 and with no children. After that termination I decided to see a therapist every week for help with my anxiety and overall health. He gave me natural supplements and vitamins but no antidepressants.

As the months wore on I knew I wanted to try again, my mind and body were craving for a baby and I wasn't getting any younger. I spoke to my partner about it. He was very concerned bc of what had happened the last time and he didn't know how I would cope with a baby and my insomnia problems which although I was trying, I hadn't managed to control. I kept insisting that I would be fine, that everything would fall into place once we had a baby, that I was meant to be a mother..he finally agreed to try for my sake, to see me happy (he has 3 children from a previous marriage who live with us).

I fell pregnant right away last october. I couldn't believe it..I was being given a 2nd chance. I was so so happy. Right away I made an appt to see a leading psychiatrist to take preventative steps in case my panic attacks started (the reason I aborted a year before). Both he and my gp said that just bc it had happened the first time didn't mean it would again. They were very reluctant to prescribe anything and the psych said that if I started to feel anxiety, I should then go back to see him. That was in my 5th week.

The next 2 weeks, I suffered from Hyperemisis Gravidarum (vomitting everything) and was hospitalized to be put on a drip. Through this tough physical period (nausea was 24/7) I was mentally happy. The hospital did a scan and I saw a heartbeat at 8 weeks.

Once home I was able to keep some food down, nausea was still 24/7 and I started to get 'restless legs'. This was awful, I could not rest at all and bc of insomnia got maybe 3 hrs sleep a night, the restless legs would not allow me to lie still even for a minute..for me this was worse than the vomitting. I started to feel mentally overwhelmed, parts of my mind began to shut down. I know it sounds unbelievable, but I couldn't find the feelings I had of wanting the pregnancy..they would come and go, and then vanished all together.

I saw the psychiatrist right away and said that I needed help fast. Yes, I wanted to keep the baby even though I couldn't 'feel' I did anymore. He prescribed me an antidepressant. I do remember him not being sure which one to prescribe at first then went with Citalopram and said I would get worse for 2 weeks before I got better!!! Why hadn't he given me anything before! I did some research on this drug and my instinct was not to take it. I called my gp and asked him for a different one, but he said to trust the psych. I went ahead and took it.

My head felt like it would explode, I started crawling on the floor bc I didn't know what else to do...I was lifeless. I felt so frightenend and anxious and started to feel that I could not have the baby, that I had been extremely irresponsible to try, that I should have listened to my partner, that I was 43 and he 49 (diabetic type 1) and that my role was to take care of him, of his existing children (18yr old, 14 and 11) OMG why was I pregnant...

After 2 days of taking the antidepressant I stopped, it had had a terribly adverse effect (with which the psych later agreed), but I had made up my mind to terminate. The feelings I had had of motherhood and such happiness at being pregnant had completely left me. I cried but went ahead and made all the necessary arrangements. My partner, mother and 2 friends spoke to me in length, asked me to think carefully, one friend in particular was afraid I would feel worse after terminating bc she knew how badly I wanted a baby.

I terminated on dec 20th. They told me I was 13 weeks (I had thought just under 12). It's now been 6 weeks. Something in my mind is adversly affected with the onset of pregnancy hormones with life changing consequences..it's like a different part of my brain takes over. I wish I had done extensive psychotherapy after the first time, I wish I had forced the psych to give me antipressants when I first went to see him, I wish I had followed my instincts and not taken what he eventually did give me..or maybe this wasn't meant to be..maybe I'm not meant to be a mother.
Now I'm sitting in disbelief over the whole thing. I've started seeing a therapist already to try and understand and resolve what happens in my subconcious. My insomnia is worse than ever. I will never try again to be a mother, but my heart is breaking.

iwasthere2 Fri 16-May-14 18:14:25

Don't do it.

iwasthere2 Fri 16-May-14 18:13:33

lee006, I don't know if you will ever read this, but is a miracle that I read your post. I had an abortion at 37 yrs. old after being pressured by my (then) boyfriend. As soon as I got home from having the abortion, I wailed out loud from the pit of soul. I could feel the emptiness in my belly and it felt wrong, horrible, devastating, lonely. I went through a severe depression, during which I longed to get pregnant again as soon as possible. I read everything I could get my eyes on about abortion and became very angry about how society seems to only discuss it in the context of "legalities" and "religion." I felt that if I had really known the truth about what it means to "abort" a baby, I would have never done it. The truth hit me like a ton of bricks AFTER having it done. I gave a speech on abortion in my Philosophy class asserting that at the earliest embryonic stages it IS a life. My relationship crumbled (thankfully), but a year later I met my now husband and agreed to try to get pregnant ASAP, given that I was already 38 yrs old. Five months later I got pregnant. I was ecstatic..called all of my family and friends to share the news. But, the excitement was short-lived. After the first few weeks, I began to get depressed and anxious. This got progressively worse day by day, and I found myself agonizing over the fact that I was pregnant...regretting it...thinking it was a big mistake, I wasn't ready...didn't want to have a baby...why did I do this. I hoped/prayed for a miscarriage. The despair and anxiety was so overwhelming. I went to urgent care and was told I was likely experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It was evident to all I was experiencing extreme depression, yet the family doctor advised that I wait two weeks before taking an antidepressant to protect the baby (the baby I didn't want). Two weeks came and went and I was on the verge of what felt like psychosis. I had come to the decision I was going to have an abortion. My best friend, who had listened to me cry for hours about the 1st abortion begged me not to do it again. I argued that I didn't think it through about getting pregnant and that I made a huge mistake. My husband did not want me to. He tried to be supportive the best he could, but nothing could stop the overwhelming anxiety and depression and the idea in my head that I wasn't ready for a baby yet. I had the abortion...was numb the first few days, but it didn't take long for depression and regret to kick in again. Devastated, I knew I needed psychiatric help. How on earth could I have done it again after KNOWING I could never ever in a million years kill my own baby again. Psychiatrist #1 diagnosed me with bi-polar disorder. Psychiatrist #2 diagnosed me with bi-polar. I immediately began treatment for bi-polar and of course the longing for another baby kicked in. A year and a half later my husband and I decided to try again, but this time under the care of a psychiatrist who specialized in bi-polar and depression during pregnancy. I came off all my medication and we began trying. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I was ecstatic once again. Saw my psychiatrist and he prescribed anti-depressant JUST IN CASE I needed them. Less than 2 weeks later I felt the depression kicking in and began a downward spiral...once again hoping to miscarry. I wasted no time in getting on the medication. It took almost two months and a few increases in the dose to start to feel normal again. In the second trimester I was happy and excited about the baby I was carrying. That baby is my soon to be 8 year-old son. I stayed on my medication throughout the pregnancy and after. I conceived my second child 3 months after my son was born. From conception I had been on anti-depressants and I had NO depression or anxiety for the entire pregnancy. Though I finally made the connection intellectually that my 2nd abortion was the result of severe depression during pregnancy, it took me years to reconcile it emotionally. Prior to your post I had never read of someone experiencing the same thing.

iwasthere2 Fri 16-May-14 18:13:14

lee006, I don't know if you will ever read this, but is a miracle that I read your post. I had an abortion at 37 yrs. old after being pressured by my (then) boyfriend. As soon as I got home from having the abortion, I wailed out loud from the pit of soul. I could feel the emptiness in my belly and it felt wrong, horrible, devastating, lonely. I went through a severe depression, during which I longed to get pregnant again as soon as possible. I read everything I could get my eyes on about abortion and became very angry about how society seems to only discuss it in the context of "legalities" and "religion." I felt that if I had really known the truth about what it means to "abort" a baby, I would have never done it. The truth hit me like a ton of bricks AFTER having it done. I gave a speech on abortion in my Philosophy class asserting that at the earliest embryonic stages it IS a life. My relationship crumbled (thankfully), but a year later I met my now husband and agreed to try to get pregnant ASAP, given that I was already 38 yrs old. Five months later I got pregnant. I was ecstatic..called all of my family and friends to share the news. But, the excitement was short-lived. After the first few weeks, I began to get depressed and anxious. This got progressively worse day by day, and I found myself agonizing over the fact that I was pregnant...regretting it...thinking it was a big mistake, I wasn't ready...didn't want to have a baby...why did I do this. I hoped/prayed for a miscarriage. The despair and anxiety was so overwhelming. I went to urgent care and was told I was likely experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It was evident to all I was experiencing extreme depression, yet the family doctor advised that I wait two weeks before taking an antidepressant to protect the baby (the baby I didn't want). Two weeks came and went and I was on the verge of what felt like psychosis. I had come to the decision I was going to have an abortion. My best friend, who had listened to me cry for hours about the 1st abortion begged me not to do it again. I argued that I didn't think it through about getting pregnant and that I made a huge mistake. My husband did not want me to. He tried to be supportive the best he could, but nothing could stop the overwhelming anxiety and depression and the idea in my head that I wasn't ready for a baby yet. I had the abortion...was numb the first few days, but it didn't take long for depression and regret to kick in again. Devastated, I knew I needed psychiatric help. How on earth could I have done it again after KNOWING I could never ever in a million years kill my own baby again. Psychiatrist #1 diagnosed me with bi-polar disorder. Psychiatrist #2 diagnosed me with bi-polar. I immediately began treatment for bi-polar and of course the longing for another baby kicked in. A year and a half later my husband and I decided to try again, but this time under the care of a psychiatrist who specialized in bi-polar and depression during pregnancy. I came off all my medication and we began trying. As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I was ecstatic once again. Saw my psychiatrist and he prescribed anti-depressant JUST IN CASE I needed them. Less than 2 weeks later I felt the depression kicking in and began a downward spiral...once again hoping to miscarry. I wasted no time in getting on the medication. It took almost two months and a few increases in the dose to start to feel normal again. In the second trimester I was happy and excited about the baby I was carrying. That baby is my soon to be 8 year-old son. I stayed on my medication throughout the pregnancy and after. I conceived my second child 3 months after my son was born. From conception I had been on anti-depressants and I had NO depression or anxiety for the entire pregnancy. Though I finally made the connection intellectually that my 2nd abortion was the result of severe depression during pregnancy, it took me years to reconcile it emotionally. Prior to your post I had never read of someone experiencing the same thing. From the bottom of my heart I hope you find some peace or have found some peace.

By the way, a friend of mine had her 2nd child at 45 yrs-old.

Callie123 Sun 27-Apr-14 13:33:31

Such a sad thread, but at least I know now I am not the only one having these feelings.
I'm 38. Never planned or wanted to have kids. First (accidental) pregnancy was a pleasant surprise, but ended in miscarriage at 7 weeks. Now 6 weeks pregnant again, and feeling really down. Thought that I wanted to try again, but ever since 2nd conception I've been feeling that I don't want to be a Mum, and I don't want the physical/lifestyle changes that a baby will require.
Relationship is not going well. Can hardly stand to speak to or be in same room as bf and am considering separating. As an otherwise smart, successful and 'together' human being, I can't understand how I have got ton myself into this mess - potentially single mum with unwanted pregnancy at 38. I feel like my life is over. sad
Is it just the pregnancy making me feel like this, or is this depression genuinely caused by the fact that I don't want to be pregnant? I can't figure out what to do, and it's driving me nuts.

tictac99 Thu 20-Mar-14 18:49:11

Hi there

I read your post, I am 44 and find myself pregnant with an unplanned 3rd pregnancy, I have a happy life but suffered horrendous pnd with my 2nd child and am so scared this will return again, a termination is on the cards but I dont think I can do it as in my heart there is enough love for another child, confused, worried x

CheerfulYank Mon 03-Feb-14 05:29:46

I just want to hug all of you, I'm so sorry for your pain.

I was stricken with the most terrible depression in my 3rd trimester with my DS. (He's 6 now). I hate remembering that time in my life. I never wanted to do anything but sleep, I sobbed hysterically, I just...it was terrible. I believed I would never be happy again. I wasn't suicidal but I did want to sleep and never wake up. When he was born I knew I loved him and I was protective of him but it was like...I almost didn't let myself get too close.

I took ad's for 2 months then weaned myself off them. I stopped nursing too, worried about what was being passed on to him and also needing more of a schedule than nursing allowed for.

I just...I got better. There's really no great thing that helped, but lots of little things. Just day by day I felt the tiniest bit happier, and then one day (it was a spring day, so he would have been about 9 months old) I realized that I was okay. Really okay. And realizing that...it was like I'd been living in a black room and all of a sudden someone threw open a window and the sun came pouring in.

It took me a long time to convince DH to have another. He was so worried about the depression coming back. So there's a big-ish gap, but I had my DD in May, she's a little over 8 months now. Physically my pregnancy with her was awful, I was literally pinned to the ground with nausea for almost seven months, but mentally I was good. It was such a relief. And then when she was born...I don't know. I haven't felt calmer or happier in years, it's so strange. It's like she hit a reset button on my hormones.

Hormones are a fucker, to be perfectly blunt. I was most emphatically not myself when pregnant with DS. It was absolute anguish.

I don't even know what I mean to say here other than it is possible to get through it, and it's so hard to tell how your body will react once your hormones have settled down a bit.

I am so sorry for what you're going through.,,it is torturous.

firstpglivingabroad Mon 03-Feb-14 04:39:26

is anyone still watching this? I'm 17 weeks today. Been on prozac for just over 2 weeks having had an ante natal depression diagnosis. My partner has left me and won't even take my calls now. I have an appointment tomorrow with the obstetrician and am going to ask about termination. I just cannot see a way to make things work at the moment. I cannot see a way forward at all.

Larisamarie Tue 17-Dec-13 22:59:42

Really sad!!!

Tixy Tue 10-Dec-13 20:35:04

Hi there Chandu2, I was prescribed Prozac. At first I was on a low dose of 20mg which didn't make any difference but the GP increased the dose to 40mg which brought me back to earth within a week. I'm aware that this was just my personal experience and the same drug and dosage may not be so successful with someone else but it's certainly worth a conversation with your medical team. I remember very clearly the first half of my pregnancy being the most terrifying time of my life and I really wouldn't want that experience for anyone. Wishing you all the best.

Chandu2 Tue 10-Dec-13 11:59:42

Hi tixy, what were the Medicenes you were prescribed for the depression. I went thru exactly the same episode as the person who started the tread

Nalablue Sun 15-Sep-13 18:19:38

Allers - I felt as if I could have been the one writing this. I am curious to know how it ended up?

Damnthosehormones Wed 02-Jan-13 11:39:33

Oh reading these posts makes me feel so sad.
I am (can barely dare to type it in case I jinx it) just coming out the other side of a really horrible and scary fist trimester. We had been trying for a baby for 6 months, I am in a brilliant relationship, financially stable, have 2 other lovely children but had always wanted 3. At last our family would be complete....and then it hit!
Around 5 weeks pregnant and suddenly I was crippled with anxiety, everything looked black and every fragment of my thoughts felt wrong. I am by nature a thinker and one if life's worriers but I'm also usually cheery, energetic and i really enjoy my life. Suddenly my life felt over, like I had died and I was watching my old life through a glass wall. Everywhere I looked I could see evidence of my old happy life and was out of mind with desperation at how I could get back and join it. If someone had told me that I would become so desperate to make it stop that I would be googling termination clinics I would never in a million years have believed them. I did google termination clinics, I was literally going out of my mind and the panic attacks were so intense that I ended up in hospital. I just wanted it to stop.
How could I look after my other children when I had become a crazy lunatic? How would my business or my relationship survive and I was consumed in grief for the life I had lost. I was also exhausted and ashamed by it. Cross that I couldn't be in more control of my brain and disappointed in myself that I couldn't just be happy.
In those early weeks it was almost constant but then it started to improve for certain parts of the day and my appetite returned etc. Eventually it was only happening for 4 hours a day around teatime. It's now been almost 3 weeks of no panic attacks, no glass barriers i am back in my life again, being a normal happy (still hormonal tho) pregnant person!
I am so passionate that what happened to me was real and very scary and I felt very misunderstood by doctors and midwives. When it was happening to me I honestly never thought I would feel normal again, so its really important that other people reading this know how evil hormones can be! I see it like severe morning sickness, I think my body is allergic to pregnancy hormones and the message to my brain was severe sad
I am still very nervous about it coming back and I understand I have a higher chance of postnatal depression....but I am determined that i will make sure I am not under the radar so that should it rear its ugly head again I will be ready.

Allers Thu 20-Dec-12 16:21:48

Hi everyone, I'm 33, 5 weeks pregnant, found out about a week ago and ever since then have been spiraling down into a horrible state. I've always been ambivalent about having kids, but my husband really wants them and all my friends are having them, so I decided to pull the plug. Fell pregnant straight away, felt some positive feelings initially, but for the last 3 days I have been in a nearly hysterical state...
Everything seems completely black, I can't stop crying, have panic attacks. Hate the way my body is changing and just thinking about this baby makes me suicidal. Now, could it just be the hormones playing up or am I really feelking that way? I can't go on like this, seeing GP tomorrow and will ask to be referred to a psychiatrist, although all I want to do is have an abortion and forget the whole horrid experience. I just want my life back!
Pretty sure if I don't have a child my husband and I will split up, although he's been very supportive, he won't make his peace with being childless.
Completely distraught, although I had depression before, this is the lowest I've ever been in my life.

doyouwantfrieswiththat Thu 06-Dec-12 19:38:31

I've also experienced ante natal depression/anxiety/insomnia through 2 pregnancies, was relieved to miscarry my 3rd because I didn't have to choose to terminate, (a little tearful here!) and put my family through that again.

In my 1st pregnancy hypnotherapy and sleeping tablets helped, in my 2nd sleeping tablets weren't enough but the post natal ssri's and some 'eye movement' therapy have helped me feel more like my old self. I was advised by my GP that I could take ssri's while pregnant and I took them while breastfeeding. There is no study to show effects during pregnancy because that would be unethical but the risk is balanced against the benefit. I found sertraline easy to tolerate though was completely ennervated for a few days at the start (possibly also due to recovering from pneumonia).

My children were both born healthy, at good weights and are generally very bright, happy and healthy, no ill effects if that helps total .

I wondered if I would ever feel 'normal' again. I wasn't able to fight for the help I needed, it was my partner who told the GP if something wasn't done I was going to hurt myself. This is what it takes to be taken seriously it seems.

Bonnie13 Thu 06-Dec-12 18:47:05

Again sorry for the long post but I've finally joined and need to get a lot off my chest n to see if anyone else is or has experinced this?? this is my third pregnancy, 32 weeks into it at the moment.. First child is 5 years old but my second pregnancy last year I terminated at 11 weeks due to feeling very very low n very depressed, I thought I didn't want to be with my partner, questioned my love for him n was just a hormonal mess I thought this was down to me not being ready.. After the termination I felt on top of the world again n cannot even believe I questioned my love for my partner... I now know that I was suffering from
ante natal depression as I feel exactly the same now at 32 weeks n have from about 8 weeks... In may this year my partner proposed n I said yes we couldn't be happier... We had decided to try for a baby n soon after I was pregnant!! At the beginning I was very excited then come 8 weeks I felt awful, really sick, didn't want to go out n bother with anyone, I was off work for about 7 weeks... I felt so down never did I feel as low to end my life or even harm myself but I definitely did not want to carry on with this pregnancy!! I have n now in week 32 n still feel horrendous, me n my partner are no longer living together because I just cannot stand him sounds awful but that is the way I feel n he does not get it at all, I've tried explaining but he still doesn't understand!! I feel as though I don't love him anymore n I'm not excited one bit about this baby... I'm
more excited for my little girl as she can't wait but apart from
that I'm not feeling anything at all.. Quite scary really but I am thinking positive as I felt this before I had a termination n afterwards I was fine n felt normal again.. I'm just scared that ill feel ok after the baby is here but ill end up onto own for good as that's what I feel like I want at the minute.... Please help?!! Anyone else feeling like this? I feel like its just me n my partner thinks its just me too??!!!

southlondonlady Tue 14-Aug-12 16:24:54

Hello, how far along are you, was there any time during your last pregnancy when you started to feel a bit better? I had horrendous anxiety during early pregnancy but around weeks 10-12 it lifted, as there is a big hormonal change then. Could not connect with the (much wanted) pregnancy at all before then, just felt completely detached. Can you speak to your midwife? I'm sure the meds will be fine if you have been prescribed them.

minipie Tue 14-Aug-12 16:07:15

Just bumping for you total and hope the previous posters see your post. You could try PMing them to see if they wouldn't mind talking to you?

totalfandango Tue 14-Aug-12 11:39:15

Thank you. Have spoken to gp.numerous times and also psychiatrist. They just say it is my decision. The OP on this thread describes not being unable to get in touch with the feelings of wanting the pregnancy and that is what is happening to me.

I just needed to communicate with people who have been through.this as no one undetstands.

queenofthepirates Mon 13-Aug-12 21:00:51

Hi Total
Please go and talk to either your GP or a midwife and get some reassurance. If the meds have been prescribed, it's highly unlikely they will have damaged your baby, GPs are far too wary of the consequences.

You need some decent help and probably someone to advocate on your behalf-is there anyone who can do this for you?
xxx

minipie Mon 13-Aug-12 20:42:23

total I just saw your post. I have not been in that position but didn't want you to go unanswered. There are numerous scans and tests which would show any damage from the pills so please don't assume you have done harm, you may well not have. In any case you need the medication, the risks to you (and therefore your baby) would be worse if you didn't take it. I know this is easy for me to say but much much harder to believe in reality. I hope someone comes along with experience to share soon. You could also try posting in the Antenatal Tests and Choices section. Best wishes x

totalfandango Mon 13-Aug-12 20:22:17

Anyone on this thread still about? I am on the verge of terminating due to antenatal depression and could really do with speaking to those who have had it.this badly before.

This is my second pregnancy the first was horrendous with anxiety and depression but for various reasons I thought it could be different this time, especially if I took medication which I refused last time.and it was nine months of sheer hell.

Now I feel horrifically guilty as I have terrible insomnia so taking a high dose of sleeping pills, without which I become unbearably anxious due to severe sleep.deprivation. I do not.trust that yhese have not harmed the baby and tne guilt is killing me. I want to terminate because I cant cope and its affecting everything in my life but actually going through with that terrifies me too.

Anyone? X

BlueWren Tue 24-Jul-12 22:10:50

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jussey17 Thu 19-Jul-12 14:41:13

I'm not sure if you are still monitoring your thread but here's hoping you will read this. I too had debilitating antenatal depression the medical profession were at a complete loss as to how to deal with me and when I asked for an abortion in utter dispair (late on at about 25 weeks) the midwife reported me to social services! I was suicidal but felt I couldn't even die bacause of the baby.
When my little boy was born (I still can't call him my son 2.5 years on) the mental torment until he emerged was infinately worse than the labour pains. But and I'm not sure if this is helpful to tell you but as soon as I saw him everything changed, that said I'm not sure how much longer I could have hung on if he hadn't been born when he was as I certainly felt (albeit misguidedly in all probability) that I was likely to become psychotic.
Clearly mine was not the result of the hormone changes at the start of pregnancy you experienced. However please know that this is a much more common condition (10%) than is generally recognised as the taboos surrounding it mantain the conspiracy of silence, issolation and desperation.
I do not know how you can begin to overcome this great trauma and loss but you have endured. As someone else said at the time you were in such a dark place you really had no choice but to terminate.
If you do try again it seems it is not certain that the same thing will happen again especially if you have progesterone supplements
My pregnancy was without doubt one of the worst times of my life and the medical profession caused /exacerbated many of my symptoms.
Now that my son is here I love him so much that the horror I experienced during the pregnancy still makes me feel guilty and worry over any damage his stressful gestation may have caused him. It makes me sad to remember how I dreaded his arrival but when he was born the sun truly did come out.
You are not a freak, just human and not all women react to pregnancy with delight.

Tixy Thu 12-Jul-12 23:18:28

Hi there, couldn't read without commenting too. I had the same kind of experience and it was the most scariest period of my life so far, I really didn't think that I would make it through.
Fell pregnant with my much wanted DS but completely lost my mind from week 6 to week 25 of the pregnancy. I had no real idea what I was doing and felt exactly as peachypips mentioned above in that the mental torment was so extreme I used to beg my husband to make it stop. My friends and family had absolutely no idea what to do with me and looking back now I am very surprised that I didn't end up in hospital too. I've never been a depressive and have always been a driven, positive and happy character. I too managed to make it through the pregnancy with medication and have no doubt that I will have to do the same should I go on to have more children.
There is so little awareness of this condition, my GP was particuarly unsympathetic in that she told me that I was being 'self indulgent' and that if she was behaving in the same way as me, her husband would have upped and left her. Very helpful when you are desperate and you have absolutely no idea of what is happening to you. Throughout that time I would repeatedly mention to the doctors, midwives and consultants that I had always had an edgy anxious feeling when I was on the combined contraceptive pill (which obviously releases the same hormones as pregnancy) and yet no one cottoned on and made the link until much later on in the pregnancy and once the medication kicked in and reacted against the hormones, it was like someone had switched the light back on. I literally came back to planet earth overnight.
I feel so so sorry for anyone who goes through this kind of experience. The effect that it has on the sufferer and the people around them can be enormous.
My family said to me once my DS was here and our dust had started to settle after my illness, that I should somehow try and do something positive with the experience I had. So if letting you know that you are not alone and it is by no means your fault, then that for the moment is enough.
xxx

peachypips Mon 09-Jul-12 12:48:32

Hi. Reading your story is like reading about myself! Even down to adverse reaction to citalopram. It turned me absolutely loopy.
However, I managed to make it through both pregnancies with medication. I was hospitalised in a psych ward too for a while as I wanted to kill myself. I wanted abortions both times even though I am against it, as the mental torment was so extreme. I literally lost my mind.
I am so sad for you, it breaks my heart. I wish you had had the care I had, as you could have made it. Do you not have a perinatal mental health team? I started on two drugs before conception to try and stabilise my mood in advance of my second pregnancy. I took drugs through whole thing. Didn't feel at all good but not psychotic.
It may be too much of a risk tho. Sorry not more helpful- there are no clear answers to this cruel and evil disease. I HATE it as it robbed me of early weeks with my kids. Love to you x

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