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May 2013- boys , girls or the unknown? Over half way there!

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scooby26 Sun 06-Jan-13 18:55:09

Hi all, new had for may 2013!

sarahwebs Sat 08-Jun-13 22:09:20

hi everybody. i just got registered on this wonderfull website. i have read alots of interesting things that helped me and my baby. this reminded me of a movie i saw a few days ago on www.onchannel.net/57028-the-pregnancy-project-2012.html

and i thought on sharing it with you.

Wirrawoo Thu 14-Feb-13 23:29:18

scooby when you say induced because of Strep B, is that because you were overdue or was there another reason involving Strep B? Just asking because I'm strep B positive as well but all they have said is that I will have IV antibiotics in labour.
The Natal Hypnotherapy CD arrived today. Looking forward to using it. managed to do a full pregnancy yoga workout today too so felt mega relaxed.

Welcome rainand smile hope you are having a fine pregnancy so far. When are you due?

A friend came over with some great old nursing/maternity tops and more baby clothes. People have been so great with passing on hand-me-downs, it has been a total lifesaver.

Have a fab time in Australia seasalt which city are you in? Am feeling massively homesick for oz at the mo, London is great but I miss my family!

SevenReasonsToSmile Thu 14-Feb-13 20:43:25

Nearly full, new Fred over here

shelly81 Thu 14-Feb-13 20:01:37

Omg I'm nesting so bad I want to paint everything ..... I'm driving DP mental haha xxx

MaybeAMayBaby Thu 14-Feb-13 19:54:50

Im planning on a glass tonight too. The last sip was Xmas day and I've been craving white wine for weeks.

Anyone else struggling with tiredness? I don't remember this sheer exhaustion-can't keep eyes open with the last one. In most ways this has been a brilliant pregnancy compared to last time, but the tiredness is getting me down sad. Iron levels are exceptionally good (they always comment) so can't be that.

I'm also like Elly with appointments at both hospital and community MW. But I go to hospital fortnightly. The waiting times are much better than last time-sometimes I was there for 3-4 hours!

Jealous of all this house buying! Has the market had an upturn then? My DM has just run to say my DS has sold and bought a new house this week (well offers). A year ago we couldn't even get a viewing on our house. None of the houses at the time sold for months. Then all of a sudden in seeing sold signs everywhere! I loved the excitement of house hunting-just not the anxious time between acceptance and exchange. Good luck to you all.

10 lovely to hear from you-how is Seb today?
salt so happy to hear good news from your test results.

ng1412 Thu 14-Feb-13 19:42:26

Beaut it depends where it look! Some say beginning of 27 week and some say 28. I think the NHS website says 28 weeks.

Boodstress Thu 14-Feb-13 19:38:09

Beaut another place said 29 weeks when I looked it up. I think babycentre said 28 weeks so I just went with that. Don't feel guilty about the wine, probably did you the world of good shock I'm having a glass of proscecco with my dinner that i didnt cook for once and I will enjoy it hugely shock

When does the third trimester start.My app says today but I saw someone up thread say its 28 weeks.Confused.

Moll Congrats on house.Exciting.We have decided to stay in our house for longer its not too cramped yet and the rent is cheap so we are going to concentrate on putting together a bigger deposit smile

Ng it could just be that they have forgotten to do routine bloods.I had last blood test at 16 weeks for combined test and my midwife said I will have them taken again on my next appointment at 29 weeks.

Had a lovely Valentines day.DP is working away and we don't do valentines.However at work we all decided to get the dine in for £10 deal.After work we opened the wine and I think I had a bit too much.Feeling really guilty now.I actually felt a lil tipsy blushhmm

ng1412 Thu 14-Feb-13 18:39:44

Elly thanks that's probably it. Got myself into a bit of a state earlier but thinking if there was a problem and it was urgent, they wouldn't be posting me the documents and would be telling me to go in ASAP.

Welcome rain!

26+4

Ellypoo Thu 14-Feb-13 16:28:01

Welcome rainand - we have a stat's thread on here too, so feel free to add yourself! When are you due and do you know what you are having yet?

ng I had my 28wk MW appt today and she said that they do bloods at this time - to test iron levels etc but also to test for anitbodies within your blood, so maybe this could be what they want you for?

Got GTT tomorrow so having bloods done at the hospital then. Whooping cough vaccine this morning - was fine, didn't hurt at all, but my arm has started aching a bit now, but it's ok really!

Finally in 3rd trimester - time seems to be slowing down (for me anyway, everyone keeps saying how fast it's going!) Only 8 weeks to go - woohoo!!

28+2

rainand Thu 14-Feb-13 16:22:36

Hi all,

I am late to join, hung around the pregnancy section without realising there was a thread here

Look forward to catching up on the thread! smile

ng1412 Thu 14-Feb-13 14:54:34

Wow mooll all systems go for you, congratulations!

I was consultant led in previous pregnancy due to my age, I still had regular check ups with the MW though, just a few extra scans and they monitored the baby more often and then made the decision to have baby induced a week earlier than due date.

I have just had a call from my consultant's secretary saying he wants more bloods from me, so I am now wondering why, I should have asked her but it was quite difficult as I didn't understand her too well to begin with. Anyway they are sending me the documents so I am hoping this sheds more light on it.

Anyone any ideas what it could be for? I had the GTT a fortnight ago and all was ok and he has also already told me to go for the full GTT when I can within the next two weeks.

Agghhhh!

SevenReasonsToSmile Thu 14-Feb-13 13:49:42

mooll fantastic news on the house offer.

seasalt glad to hear you're doing well and the test results were ok, not long now until you're home smile.

Re consultant care, I'm like elly, I have my usual MW appts but also see the consultant at the hospital. I've only had to see him once so far, with more booked at 28 and 34 weeks.

We need new thread names again, maybe something about going into the third trimester, or one arriving already?

scooby26 Thu 14-Feb-13 13:38:19

Re epidurals- I didn't want one but after 7 hours of contractions on syntocin drip ( induced due to group b strep) I was still only 3 cm dilated.. I could have lasted longer but not the average 7-10 hours I was likely to still take so I had to give in to the epidural. It was magic and we sat and watched tv etc for the next xx hours. In those circs I can' t see many disadvantage and would ave one magazine if required but in an ideal world I'd rather have a nice quick epidural free birth ;-) it was defo the right decision as labour ended up taking 26 hrs...

Defo hoping for shorter this time but DS had his hand by his face so he simply got wedged silly bugger!

Ellypoo Thu 14-Feb-13 13:33:13

I'm also consultant led but see my MW for all standard appointments, and then have extra ones at the hospital with a scan and appt with my consultant too - it means loads of appointments but tbh I'd much rather that they are keeping a very close eye on us. The MW's at the hospital are all lovely though too, and at our place, a lot of them rotate around the community mw base and the hospitals too.

Woohoo mooll - so many of you moving! I am trying to put my foot down with DH as he is getting itchy feet again!! It is less than 6 months since we moved in!! Do you have anywhere you could stay while your DH moves you? Probably worth paying more for removal men to move you rather than having to do anything yourselves!!

Hi seasalt, lovely to hear from you! I can't believe how soon it is until you come back, that must be a nice feeling, although I can understand the apprehension with the flight.

HV didn't come yesterday. Well, she did, but didn't knock very loudly so I didn't hear her! We have rearranged for when I'm off on maternity leave - much more sensible!
Had whooping cough jab this morning, but my arm isn't sore yet!!

Hope you are all doing ok! We had loads of snow here again yesterday afternoon, but it had all gone by this morning thankfully!!

MooLL Thu 14-Feb-13 12:34:28

Hi all - not been on for ages but been reading all the news - huge congrats 10 you and Seb seem to be getting along amazingly well - so so happy for you!

Regarding consultant led I am in that camp given previous pre-eclamsia and early birth. I have all my usual midwife appointments but with the consultant instead. She is forever ordering extra tests such as baseline bloods and frequent growth scans - which at times gets frustrating but I do feel very looked after. I would agree you don't get to have usual chit chat as much ... But that is where you lovely ladies come in :-)

I think we must be mad but appears like an offer on a house we viewed at the weekend may get accepted today! A huge lifestyle change moving from Sw London up to the countryside ... We now need to get our place on the Market so going to hold off creating a nursery from the office! Looks like if all goes ahead we will move a couple weeks after DD is born - not ideal given I am having an elective c section but a great excuse not to carry any boxes!!

Artigene Thu 14-Feb-13 10:21:02

10 - it's so great to hear about little Seb doing so well. From the little I know it's incredible that he's doing regular stretches of breathing without assistance given he is only 27/28 weeks gestation. I hope they let you stay in hospital with him a little longer.

Aberjen - I'm consultant led and was told there was no need to see a midwife as each appt where I would have seen a mw I saw a doctor instead. I missed the midwives who are great at just listening to all my gripes and grouses so at 24 weeks I asked to see a mw too & they were fine about that. I won't do it at every appt but I may ask again.

Sea - enjoy Oz, I've never been but have always wanted to go. You are so close to moving home now, how exciting! And that is brilliant news about your test results.

Re birth fear: I have birth fear and a huge fear of CS as well so I'm stuck really. I can't stand the idea of the post surgery CS pain or the recovery period. And for those wanting more kids my obstetrician friend reckons CS can affect future conception (only v slightly though, most people are fine). I can however say great things about epidurals. I had one both times & while it was hard to keep still throughout contractions while they sited the epidural it didn't really hurt when the needle went in. The relief an epidural brings is AMAZING. I literally read a book and had a nap after my epi with DD2, then I pushed twice with v minimal pain and out she popped. It wore of an hour or do later so I don't think I had a catheter, maybe I did but I never noticed it! The only bit of my birth plan I am certain about this time is to have an epidural as soon as my labour is properly established. That an injection of anti sickness meds, I felt nauseous in both labours but one injection soon put pay to that.

10storeylovesong Thu 14-Feb-13 10:07:27

Just a quick one for those dreading an epidural. I had mine late Sat night in order to remove my placenta. I can honestly say I didn't feel a thing (the steroid injections hurt more!). By 9 Sun morn I was out of bed, showered and sat by Seb's incubator. There were absolutely no problems with it. And I know this is too much info, but after 6 months of being up for the loo 6-7 times a night the catheter was amazing to give me a good nights sleep!

SeaSalt1 Wed 13-Feb-13 22:55:41

Hello everyone, sorry for the long-ish silence, been a busy couple of weeks here.

10 - really glad to hear all is going well, please post more pics on FB of your little one if you have the time/inclination, Sebastian looks absolutely gorgeous!

Panda - I'm with you on the fear of birth / CSection thing. I don't really want to talk about it but am very worried about the whole thing and may ask for a CS once I've slotted into the UK system (am still abroad at the moment).

Thanks to those of you who asked about my health. I can't remember when I last updated but in essence the outcome has been: no heart problems (hooray!) and no liver cancer (hooray!). I haven't heard the final outcome for one of the other tests re: clotting (they are being terribly slow) but everything is looking good at the moment. It has been such a wake-up call and has reminded me to be grateful and happy for what I have in life, and not to take anything for granted. I have a wonderful husband, a loving family, a good job and close friends - I am so, so lucky. I suppose it's natural in life to have aims and goals and to strive for more (at the moment for me it's us having our own home, ideally before the baby comes) but I mustn't ever forget what I have right now at this moment, which is a lot! Anyway, sorry if that sounds a bit sentimental...

In other news, I'm now in Australia for a couple of weeks. Long-haul flight (7 and a half hours from Singapore) was ok but ankles became very swollen. Not sure what the 14/15 hours back to the UK from Singapore is going to be like in March, dreading it a little but am hoping for a sympathy upgrade.

SO jealous of those of you finishing work soon (though admittedly, I'm only 25+2 today so a little behind many of you). It looks as though I'm going to work right through until my due date for various reasons - another 15 weeks or so from now. I just hope I can still waddle onto the bus / tube at that point.

Thanks to all of you who've been so supportive during my time in Singapore - only 3 weeks now until I fly home, I can't believe it, it has been an extremely tough 6 or so months but I'm nearly there! I've nearly survived!

SevenReasonsToSmile Wed 13-Feb-13 21:02:00

10 really pleased to hear he's doing so well, we're all here for hand-holding when you're discharged and are missing him. So glad to hear you're also having cuddles now!

maybe I want to know whose names you've been eyeing up! I can see why you're considering a section, I'm not surprised what 3 hours of pushing has done to you down there, my entire labour with DD lasted that long.

elly that does sound early for the first meeting with HV. Mine does them from 36 weeks, both times the appointment has been booked 1-2 after I've already had the baby! I still see her when I have DD weighed so I might ask if she can book it earlier this time.

panda you're not pathetic, and there's a medical reason for you to feel how you do. No one is going to judge you, you need to feel comfortable with however you choose to have your baby.

Those suffering cramps during the night I really suffered with DD. try standing about a couple of feet away from a wall and leaning forward giving them a really good stretch every night before you go to bed.

For what it's worth I wanted a c section but if I have complications I will be on my own after two weeks with 3 children so I decided against it.Another thing that put me off is feeling an epidural put in.

I had an epidural with ds1 as I was prepped for a c section after two hours of pushing and I had one as soon as I could in labour with ds2.I can honestly say I didn't feel either epidural go in as I was too busy coping with contractions.

10 So glad to hear Seb and you are doing well.The expressing will get easier and by the sounds of it he will be home before you know it smile

Panda Couldn't leave your post unanswered.Your autism sounds very similar to my Ds1. I don't know that there's anything I can say to help.Other than I would really push for a cs if you feel that's the only way you can control the situation.How did you get through the first labour though? I would have thought that scarier as it was the complete unknown,out of routine and you can't control anything.Is it just the photographic memory of every thing that will happen this time and the memory of pain that puts you off rather than the event itself.

Not sure any of that made sense.

Boodstress Wed 13-Feb-13 19:38:00

aberjen not sure if this is your 1st but I was under consultant care last time and this time and I only saw my consultant a handful of times. My midwife is in the doc surgery next door so I see her for all appointments in between. After my 28 week app with midwife I checked my consultant app and realised it was 36 weeks which is crazy so I booked a 32 week with the midwife and just explain when I see her. Not sure if that helps smile

aberjen Wed 13-Feb-13 19:10:56

Evenin' all!

10 what brilliant news! Love hearing how Seb keeps going from strength to strength smile

Panda sorry you are finding things rough at the moment. Fingers crossed your appointment next week will help you feel more informed/in control

Those of you under consultant-led care, can I ask how it works?! I was switched from community-based to consultant-led yesterday and now don't quite understand how all my appointments work (I also like to feel that I have a plan to follow).

In my notes, there is a schedule at the front for what the community midwife should discuss with me at each appointment. For the appointments that have been switched to the hospital, who will go through that stuff with me (bf, birth plan etc.)? A midwife or the consultant? Yesterday I saw a midwife very briefly for the usual measurements, and then had a longer chat with the consultant - is that what usually happens? Realise it prob also varies a lot from hospital to hospital.

I know I should be grateful that they are keeping a closer eye on me (even though it's pointless as far as I can work out, but that's another story), but I will miss just popping to the surgery to see the midwife (5 mins from my office!) - the hospital just feels so much more impersonal, and somehow I just feel more comfortable asking the community midwives my stupid questions, rather than the consultant or hospital midwives sad.

Sorry for long post but so confused!

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