unsympathetic husband. AARRGGHHH

[LouM10]

Sorry for this but I just really need to vent a little bit. I am nearly 7 mth gone and am moving house tomorrow. We only had 4 days notice, and my husband is working till 8pm and doesn't get home til 9.

I have had to move nearly all the furniture myself, pack and drag all the boxes myself,(which I know I shouldn't, but with it being short notice, friends couldn't take time off to help me) and all he is doing, is taking apart 1 piece of furniture and taking the washing machine out tonight. He can't take any time off work so I'm not pissed at him as such, although he could have done more on the evenings.
He gets home from work and says ''Are you ok?'' I say no not really, I have done my back in moving the boxes, my feet feel like they are gonna drop off, and I feel like I'm going to pass out due to exhaustion. I'm not one to whinge about ailments, so the rare time I do, I expect some sympathy or at least acknowledgement of all the work I have done, when I shouldn't be doing it.

All I wanted was an 'Aw babe' or something like that. All I get in return is... Well I'm tired as well you know, I've been at work all day. My machine broke so I had to do everything by hand, blah blah.

So????!!!! We had a huge argument this am me saying whenever there's anything wrong with him I'm all aw baby, you wanna shoulder rub? etc. All 5 days have been like this. I said are you expecting a medal or something for going to work??? What about when you weren't working, did I whinge about it all the time and expect some sort of special treatment for it? NO. And I still managed to make your bloody tea and do your dishes and dirty washing. Well, anybody who has the stamina to read this... I appreciate your thoughts. Lol.

[traumaqueen]

At least you had a huge argument and didn't let it fester.

I don't think anyone who has never been pregnant really has any idea of what it feels like - they think it's just like having a football stuck up your jumper; not like you being life support for a baby elephant that's occupying the space where your innards used to be.

He probably feels a bit guilty too and is being defensive rather than just unfeeling.

Phone for a takeaway and phone a removal company in the morning for some help. You Deserve It.

[LouM10]

Luckily, my mate isn't working tomorrow, so he's organizing the van and physically moving evrything for me. And as for the takeaway, that's a good idea. He's paying though haha

[compo]

Moving house causes rows
it's on the list of three most stressful things along with getting married and having a baby

[LouM10]

Well getting married was fine, but still have to have our baby. Great haha

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

YADNBU, my DH is currently in the Philipines diving with a friend of his. We are moving to a different country in eight days time. I have so far sorted and chukced correspondance relating to a life we lived three moves ago (middle east), unearthed vidoes of fun song factory and generally organised our move. Mr 'I'm on holiday' is going to find a lot of his precious stuff missing. evil

[LouM10]

haha. Damn I wish I'd thought of that. Well actually, some of the boxes don't have lids. I'm sure I could muster up the energy to go rummaging and see what may have been 'lost' in the move. I know it's petty, but the way I'm feeling atm I really don't care. Teehee I'm in a better mood already. Thank you for your invaluable advice

[SpiderObsession]

Be careful of your back Lou. I got sciatica at about that time and was sternly lectured by the midwife about moving heavy objects. I said I was innocent (m'lord) and hadn't done any heavy lifting... apart from that bale of hay (ahem).

The upshot was I could hardly walk without a lot of pain for the rest of the pregnancy.

SOOOO... YADNBU. Give him a kick and tell him to get his arse back in reasonable time tomorrow (or take the afternoon off?).

Would recommend take-out for tea too so that's one less job off your list.