I am being over sensitive?

[2greatboysandabump]

I've just given birth to my beautiful DS3 and had my six week check with the nurse at my surgery. When it got to the question regarding contraception I explained that my husband will be having a vasectomy in the future and we would use condoms in the mean time. I said I felt sad to think that DS3 would be my last baby but 3 children was practical for us. She replied "well you could have 10 boys and still not get a girl".

I was so shocked and just replied that we didn't try for a girl this time and DS3 has fit into our family perfectly.

The more I think about this comment the more upset I feel. We are all absolutely besotted with DS3 and I would hate for anyone to think I was disappointed with him and he was second best to a girl. Of course a little girl would have been lovely but so is having 3 little men.

Wasn't sure where to post this message, but just wondered what peoples thoughts are. I dont want to make a fuss at the surgery but just feel it was a really inappropriate comment for a health professional to make.

[2greatboysandabump]

Oops title should have read "Am I"

[cfc]

This is her problem and point of view, not yours. She is ignorant, not you.

Let it go and enjoy these first few weeks of your third and final newborn. Many congrats!

[kickassangel]

either she has one of those ideas that everyone wants girls/one of each, and made a silly assumption, or she's heard it so many times that she just assumed that that was what you meant.

not worth making a fuss, congratulate yourself on knowing that YOU are happy - her opinion doesn't matter.

if you see her again, just keep talking about your three gorgeous boys.

[LoveBeingAsleep]

I hate this attitude of must have at least one of each. I ahve a dd and tbh if i had to choose what i would prefer next time i'd say a girl. I just think they are more likely to have a better bond/relationship.

Stuff her, who cares what she thinks. You may want to think of a put down in case you are in this position again.

[oldmum42]

she was out of order to say this - unless you yourself had been crying on her shoulder about not having a DD this time - and clearly that was not the case.

I've had comments like this (even with ds2), frequently after ds3.

Now expecting ds4!!!