When I first met DP, one thing we had in common was a supposed interest in travel. He, however had never been out of the country I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed circumstances, finances, ex wife etc all stood in the way. So we got discussing holidays and we decided to book a holiday abroad for us and the kids. I started to save up a deposit, he didn't. I asked why not and he said he still needed to buy himself and his son a passport!!! So feeling a bit frustrated with it all I told him to get a move on and buy the bloody passports. He said he'd start saving for them. Anyway, as it happens, we can't take the kids away on holiday now due to exams/sats/starting new schools etc so instead, DP suggested a dutch dash for just him and me. I agreed. Then after months of me assuming he'd been saving, he tells me he was having thoughts as "someone at work" said they were crap . So, last attempt at getting abroad, I suggested a few days (maybe 4) in Italy. He agreed and said he was really excited about it. He actively started saving too so all looked positive. But of course, we needed someone to look after the kids for 5 nights. I asked my parents if she would have DS, she agreed. He told me he was asking his parents about having his DS. So, a few days later I said "did you get a text back off your dad yet?" and he replied "actually, I've not text HIM yet, I'll do it tonight" Next morning I asked if he'd done it, he said "no I forgot, I'll do it when I get in from work" I got impatient and said "will you just do it now please?" so he said "actually, I'm popping in to see dad after work, it will be better if I ask face to face". So - fair enough, can't argue with that one. That night he came home, I asked "what did he say?" he asked "who?" so I said "your dad!! about having DSS??" and he replied "oh crap, I forgot to ask".
So anyway 3 weeks have gone past, he has still not arranged child-care and I've noticed he's drawn money out of his holiday savings. I have decided that since my DS's childcare has already been arranged, I'll just go to Italy on my own. I'm sick of waiting around for him. Its been nearly 2 years of messing around, wasting time "trying" to organise some kind of a holiday. When I tell him, he'll go ballistic and it will all blow up into a HUGE row, I know it will but what option do I have? just sit around and not go anywhere because he can't be arsed? I have no problems with being in a country on my own. My only concern is DP as I know he will kick off.
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desisions · 14/05/2010 13:33
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