to go ahead with the Christening even though DD has Pox?

[makecakesnotwar]

12 week old DD2 is being Christened on Sunday. We have arranged the whole weekend around it, and are having DD1 birthday party on Saturday. People are travelling from all over the world and have paid for hotels etc. I discovered that DD2 has the Pox. I know the right thing to do would be to cancel but can't face the stress of reorganising. Should I stay quiet or am I just being selfish?

[TheFallenMadonna]

You need to tell everyone at least. I'd take my family, because we've all had it (finally!) - but you do need to tell the guests, and the priest or whoever is doing the service.

[drinkyourmilk]

Yes - I think you need to warn people. Sorry.

[waitingforbedtime]

You need to tell everyone. It is a dangerous disease for pregnant people or those who are immuno comprimised.

[Rollmops]

Do the right thing and reschedule. Would you like to be responsible for someone, adult or a child, with suppressed immune system (which you may know nothing about) to develop potentially life threatening symptoms, or worse?
People harp about selflessness being a virtue and in this case, it really is.
If you intend to still go through with christening, you must inform all guests asap about your DDs pox and let them decide.

[BettyButterknife]

I agree - if you're dead-set on going ahead you really need to let everyone know. It's not just about people getting CP if they haven't had it, but also women in the early stages of pregnancy can lose their babies if exposed (and they might not have told you they're pregnant), as well as people with compromised immune systems - there have been examples of people on chemo dying due to exposure to CP.

So I would think seriously about it!

[tatt]

you shouldn't stay quiet but if people have flights booked and the person doing the ceremony is happy I'd tell them and go ahead. Pregnant women and those with real need to worry will have to stay away but that will be aminority of guests unless you have a very strange family.

[CuppaTeaJanice]

When did she come down with pox? I was surprised how quick the illness was. If she's not had any new spots for a day or so, they may well have crusted over by sunday so she won't be infectious anymore.

You should still let your guests know though. And maybe see if you can have the ceremony in private in case there are members of the congregation who might be vulnerable.

[YellowDaffodil]

You need to tell people asap. People with compromised immune systems and those who are pregnant need all the facts so they can make a choice.

I guess everyone you have invited are close friends or family, do a poll of who can and can't come and decide whether to cancel from there. I guess it comes down to whether this is a religeous thing or a social one, it would be nice to have people there but not essential. They would still know you had Christened your child iyswim.

Check with the celebrant first, if they say no to performing the ceremony then the choice isn't yours to make anyway.

[DumpyOldWoman]

You must tell people.

The let them decide about coming f the party, but in all truth I thijnk you should postpone the Christening in the Church, because you can hardley warn the entire congregation. And there may be another Christening at the same time...pregnant women, people with compromised immunity etc.

You are supposed to keep your child 'in quarantine' while the spots are 'live'. Have the party with friends and family, as ong as they have been told, but postpone the ceremony in such a public place.

[Cadelaide]

I would go ahead but warn everyone.

I'll bet you'll find the vast majority will still come.

[DumpyOldWoman]

But what about other mothers and babies in the Church? You may find that the Vicar refuses to Chriten an ill and infectious child!

I would agree that your guests will still come to your house, but I would be very annoyed to bring a child and not to have been told in advance. VERY annoyed.

Sorry about the pox, though, poor we thing. I hope she recovers quickly and is not too poorly and uncomfortable.

[cupcakesandbunting]

Make it a combined christening/pox party.

My DS needs pox for his got/need/swap disease collection. May I bring him along?

[Casserole]

You've GOT to tell people. If they are immunocompromised it's dangerous. They have the right to make that decision for themselves, I'm that you're even asking!

[Lucy85]

I cancelled mine for the same reason - another baby was beig 'done' at the same time. Also I wanted to tell everyone in case they were pg etc.

Rearrange - it's not that hard, honest!