I know im not just need advise.

[ray81]

I'll try and keep this short, i am 40 weeks pg and think my DH mybe- well am not sure what he is doing tbh.

Ok about a week ago i went to log on to FB ansd there was this email address in there that i did not recognise, so i searched this person and it is basically a realy fit guy with LOADS of woman friends, the pictures are clearly magazine pictures. The birthday is the same as my DH. There didnt seem to be anything overly sinister about it so tried to put it to the back of my mind.
Well last night i couldnt sleep so got up and his phone was just there on the side i picked it up and he has 2 text from a woman i do not know, first saying ' text me if you manage to get online later' and the second ' Hey you take it you didnt get online i have sent you along message' there is then a call out from his mobile at 1.30am. I know he came to bed about 2.15 as he woke me up and i couldnt get back to sleep.
So I checked the history on the computer, now he deleted his history but i know where to go that gets you the info of all the sites visited, the ones you cant delete and he was on some sex website for about 3 hrs last night.
I cried and cried and still want to cry now, am 4 days overdue and i dont know what to do, i dont want my marriage to break up, we have tried for 5 yrs for this baby and have had 6 mc and thought we were ok.
I just dont know what to think.

[azazello]

You poor thing. I'd suggest reposting this in the relationships section where there are very many wise Mnetters waiting to give helpful advise and is a bit less of a bear pit than AIBU.

[ray81]

i did post there but havent got alot of advise so thought i would post here instead

[RunawayWife]

I think you will get better advice in relationships, but I also think you need to ask him what he is playing at

[StealthPolarBear]

OK, so you're about to go into labour at any moment.
I think you need a backup labour companion - assuming he was it?? - you need someone you can trust in labour that you don;t have immediate issues with. Your mum??
Then I think you need to ask him what the hell he thinks he's playing at.

[pinkycheesy]

virtual hugs hormonal and vulnerable, YANBU to be upset and confused

please please talk to DH, calmly and non-accusingly. If he has been supportive and loving up to now, it is likely that there is a rational explanation. Could he have just been looking for someone anonymous to talk to? Maybe he is terrified about this longed for baby and doesnt want to burden you? I chat and flirt online as a way of removing myself from the real world for a while; other people play golf, watch soaps, or lie in a spa for a similar reason. But it doesnt mean I love my partner any less or that I am having an affair. He is ok with it, we are open with each other. Please try to talk to your DH. I hope you can resolve this

[two2many]

I think you need to sit down calmly if possible & ask him out straight what he is playing at tbh , You need to try get this sorted before baby arrives as I'm sure you do not want to give birth with all of this hanging over you both . sorry you have to go through this now . >

[BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny]

How stressful for you.

It sounds like he's being a t*at to be honest, it's his birthdate etc but not his picture. You should speak to him about it rather then let it fester. It could be nerves about becoming a father (not that this is an excuse though), alot of men can't handle it.

[StealthPolarBear]

Good point - as it's not his picture that hopefully means he hasn't actually met any of them in real life. I'd find that a lot easier to cope with

[trice]

I imagine he thinks what he has been up to is harmless. It is not harmless as it has hurt you. You need a heart to heart.

[DuelingFanjo]

I saw your previous thred. I really think if he's been on the sex sites since you first posted then you really do need to talk to him. Don't ask him, tell him what you have seen and make it clear to him that it's unacceptable.