DS was invited to a "birthday tea party" last night at a friend's house. I took him and when I got there, the house was full of teenagers/18/19/20 year olds smoking and drinking. The lad who's birthday it was, wasn't even in. I know his mum (who seems to have changed drastically since I last saw her ) and she beckoned us in saying "I don't know where DS is, he went out, could be anywhere, but he'll probably be back soon so come wait in here."
so I took DS through to the kitchen where a group of adults were stood smoking and drinking. DS was handed a plate and told to "get something to eat". I WANTED to take him home but at the same time, I didn't want to embarrass him and upset his friend on his birthday so against my better judgement, I left him saying I'd pick him up at 7pm.
At 5.55pm I received a text off him saying "you can come and pick me up now if you want" I text back asking if he was ok and he replied "yes, but I think the party is over now, everyone is leaving".
So I went to pick him up. On the way there I saw the birthday boy and a group of lads all hanging around on the corner of the street. No DS though. I went to the house and DS rushed out, said a quick goodbye and got in the car.
- he'd had no food as he couldn't stand the smell of smoke in the kitchen.
- the other kids had left him in the house and got out to "lark in the street" (DS isn't allowed to do this so refused to go).
Bit of a disaster really and not what I'd call a "children's party. More an excuse for a piss-up.
Problem is, he's supposed to be sleeping over there on satuday night. Its been arranged for ages and I was happy to let him go until I saw how this woman and the kids have deteriated since I last saw them. I don't want him "hanging around" on street corners and TBH, I don't like the look of the people who she has in the house. Half of them look fresh from prison!
DS wants to go, telling me "it will be different on saturday because the older ones won't be there. I think they will be, personally and apart from that, he'll still be expected to do the "hanging around" thing.
AIBU to make up and excuse and not let him go? the kids are only 11.