AIBU regarding meeting up with old school friends.
I suspect I am but just wondered what others think!
At school I had a group of six close female friends. I?m still in contact with two of them, and see them all the time, but for various reasons have drifted apart from the rest. There is one in the group, lets call her friend A, who is still a v close friend of mine, and she?s very keen that we don?t all lose contact with each other.
She?s decided to arrange a meet up and copied everyone in on a quite guilt trippy (I felt) email. ?We have to meet up soon or we?ll all lose contact? sort of thing. Anyway, a date was decided and they decided to meet near our home town, which is quite far from me now so I?ll have to spend the night there. London is actually easiest for all of to get too, but two of the girls hate London and find it intimidating so we can?t meet there. I sent a non committal reply saying that I would try to make it but that I may be too busy as I might be moving house around that time. (It turns out I?m not moving house at that time now- so I no longer have that excuse)
Basically I don?t really want to go, friend A is insistent that we all go, but I see her all the time anyway. I don?t feel I have much in common with the other girls, which is why we?ve drifted apart. I also find ?girly evenings? quite uncomfortable and not particularly enjoyable. I don?t really like all the drinking cocktails and gossiping stuff, I prefer to just go to the pub with a mixed group! I also don?t want to spend most of the weekend away from home. Something else has also come up on the date we set, which I?d rather do. Friend A has declined on my behalf though, saying that we have prior engagements that can?t be rearranged.
I know that if I make up an excuse now and say I can?t go, they will re-arrange, but I don?t feel I can really say I just don?t want to go.
Would I be horrible and massively selfish to pretend to be ill on the day? That way they could all still meet up, but I wouldn?t have to go!
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AIBU re. meeting up with school friends?
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beaker25 · 18/02/2010 13:09
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