Aibu thinking teens should not do this

[Tiredmumno1]

Out with my two youngsters today and we were walking home from town down some back paths when i come across a massive group of teens, one says to me have you got 50p, i said no, as they walked off all i could hear was yeah i bet you havent. Why the hell cant they ask the parents i dont even know them. Its so intimidating.

[Tiredmumno1]

I find it strange. No one has asked me for money before,

[GhoulsAreLoud]

A few years ago a friend and I were on our lunch break and my friend was eating a sandwich while I got some money out of the cash point.

A bloke walked past my friend and said in all seriousness "can I have one of your sandwiches?"

I don't know if he was homeless, he looked fairly well dressed and wasn't begging at the cash point, just walking past her, saw an opportunity and just asked away.

[cheesesarnie]

agree its not limited to teens.

tis bit rude and annoying but wouldnt think much of it after a 'sorry no i havent'.

[GypsyMoth]

Why are you demonising teens??

Plenty of people approach asking for things.....

[rainbowinthesky]

Were you never a teenager yourself? What did you think they would do? Stab you?

[scanty]

it's downright intimidating to the person approached. They might think they are just being funny but the person they are asking doesn't know if a 'no' will result in a kicking or whatever. When I was young we used to do stupid stuff like dare each other to go to someones door for a jam sandwich, a biscuit etc. We were harmeless and gormless but never thought that our actions could be seen as worrying or frightening. Maybe these teens don't realise how scary their packs can be.

[ImSoNotTelling]

When I was a teenager I went to ask someone the time and they shouted "I haven't got any money!" and legged it

Then the next week it happened again!!

I was quite scruffy i suppose, but, bloody hell...

I decided to buy a watch

[GypsyMoth]

Large group of teens...... You asked their ages then?

[rainbowinthesky]

Commensense says that most teenagers don't go round giving people a kicking even when in large groups. Maybe it helps that I remember being a teenager and have one, as well as beign a teacher.

[2shoes]

yabu
and you should remember your little ones will one day be teens

[ImSoNotTelling]

I can see why the OP found it intimidating.

I feel intimidated with large groups of people in certain situations.

Quiet back path, no-one around, with your kids, being approached by one of a large "gang" of people. It is intimidating, isn't it.

[onlyjoinedforoffers]

sorry i would feel intimidated too and i have teens there are a huge difference between teens yes most of them are lovely a gang is frightening they always show off to each other

[AnyFucker]

nothing new here though is there ?

teens have hung around in groups for time immemoriam

they tend to show off to each other

asking for 50p is not actually being abusive...I can think of much worse things they could do, tbh

they didn't swear, didn't jostle, didn't actually threaten so unless you are a very timid person, I don't see the problem

just say "no" and carry on with your business

[ImSoNotTelling]

Even when I was a teenager I found some other groups of teenagers intimidating...

[scanty]

maybe it depends where you live, the town where I grew up then you would be silly not to be wary. I'm not a sensitive type but I'm surprised that people don't seem to be intimidated by groups of teens (obviously they aren't all up to no good) though to TBH I'd rather walk past a group of boys rather than girls these days.

[scaryhairycat]

Going by the way you were asked/location I would be wary myself, as I know this can be a way for someone to easily snatch your purse out of your hand - I know that sounds horrible, and the thought probably hadn't even crossed their minds, but it does happen, so no, I don't think you're BU at all.
I know teens (unfairly) get a bad press, and I know there are things I did as a teenager that doesn't exactly fill me with pride thinking back,(!) but anyone would feel intimidated being approached by a large group of people asking for money, teens or not.

[Tiredmumno1]

Dont be daft ilovetiffany, they were quite clearly aged between 13 and 15, i do have eyes. And why exactly do you think i am demonising teens, that i dont understand as it was a group of teens, and yes i was scared for our safety, as i hear alot of stories of the teens doing that round here, you give them 50p the next minute they are mugging you. And dont you feel that they should ask their bloody parents, they are not my responsbility. My kids are.

[LaurieFairyCake]

A group of children asked me for money (probably about the same age group) and I said "Gosh are you lost, do you need to me to call your mum for you"? in a very nice, sympathetic voice.

They looked a bit shocked and cleared off sharpish

[laydeestardust]

"as they walked off all i could hear was yeah i bet you havent"

they were hard weren't they

Yes of course they were silly to ask you for 50p,I was silly when I was a teen weren't you? They're just kids ( albeit big ones), still learning and I don't imagine they feel as terrifying as you seem to think they are!

You'll probably see teens differently when you have some-I have 2, as well as some younger ones,and I find it infuriating when idiots tut and roll their eyes at them in playgrounds when they're helping their younger siblings on slides etc-ridiculous.

I think some people are stupidly prejudiced against teens ( not you in particular OP)

[OrmRenewed]

You could have given them 50p.

I was asked for 70p for a bus far by a lad a few months back. Didn't have any change so I gave him a tenner. Turns out he lived round the corner and a tenner appeared through our letter box a week later.

[Tiredmumno1]

Yes i was a teen once and believe it or not i was one of the good ones, you know the one that tells others to stop if they are doing something wrong. Maybe i am abnormal. We were actually near no shops or buses, just a long pathway with nothing but trees and a tiny park, where they all went in about 15 - 20 of them, yes including about 4 girls, in case anyone wondered.

[Tiredmumno1]

Yes i was a teen once and believe it or not i was one of the good ones, you know the one that tells others to stop if they are doing something wrong. Maybe i am abnormal. We were actually near no shops or buses, just a long pathway with nothing but trees and a tiny park, where they all went in about 15 - 20 of them, yes including about 4 girls, in case anyone wondered.

[Tiredmumno1]

Yes i was a teen once and believe it or not i was one of the good ones, you know the one that tells others to stop if they are doing something wrong. Maybe i am abnormal. We were actually near no shops or buses, just a long pathway with nothing but trees and a tiny park, where they all went in about 15 - 20 of them, yes including about 4 girls, in case anyone wondered.