I lost our baby at 30 weeks last summer. DH is constantly reminding me that we haven't had sex since then. TBH I've been through stages of hating and blaming him/me/our relationship and I really can't bear the thought of anything in the bedroom beyond sleeping.
I just jokingly said he only ever half listens to me (while he was on his Xbox) and he said 'whats that supposed to mean, I never ask anything of you and still you moan' When I questioned him about what he meant it basically meant he never mentions sex to me so I should be grateful.
I told him that he has no idea what feelings I've got inside and that he never asks WHY I don't want to have sex. He disappeared after I gave birth leaving me to arrange the funeral on my own, arrange flowers etc ON MY OWN. Also, a week after the funeral I was having a 'bad' day and he told me I was acting as if DS or DD1 had died and that I should snap out of it. I DO love him, he's such a caring person normally but I can't stand that he doesn't know, or want to listen to any feelings I might have regarding the baby we lost.
AIBU for not wanting sex with my DH? Should I just put up and shut up? I don't really know where to go from here and know our relationship is on the rocks but don't know if I actually care anymore
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AIBU?
To be upset with DH and wonder if sex IS everything
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mylifemykids · 17/02/2010 16:52
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