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to discipline my 13 month old?
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He is my first DC.
He undertands when i am asking him not to do something (I say 'no' firmly) and knows fine well when he is being naughty. (He waits for me not to look and then runs over to whatever it is) If I have said no on several occassions and he still isnt listening i gentely slap the back of his hand (not that this seems to bother him in the slightest
) I also do the no and maybe slap hand bit when he throws one of his (unbelievable and reletively common) temper tantrums.
Sometimes I feel like I am being too harsh on him and sometimes i deffinately feel my mother thinks i am too harsh on him but he has such a temper (no idea where he could have got it from <<looks around room>>
) and he does know he is being naughty.
AIBU to discipline him like this? I hope I am not doing too much but I dont really know how to discipline him at the age he is at when he cant talk yet. How do you all discipline a child of this age?
Hey melted, glad you had a better day. Amazing how much stress lifts off your shoulders when you realise you don't have to be a stern Victorian disciplinarian, isn't it?
Who are you talking to
po?
I wouldn't do that. It would never be in the house for one thing but like you said i want to make sure he eats well and doesn't relate food with stress, a chore or punishment.
That's OK
pran - Your opinion echoed everyone elses and I appreciate it - late or not.
Sorry OP I'm always doing that!I read pages 1 and 2 than post without realising that the discussion has moved on.
Please, please don't put marmite in his mouth. You don't want to make eating a stressful, scary experience for him, do you?
It wasn't until I had baby number 2 that I realised that at 13 months they really are just babies.
OH, don't worry about it...we're all muddling along in this parenting lark if we're being honest. We're learning all the time and making fuck-ups...well I am!
the OP totally utterly gets that now, pran, fear not. she's had an epiphany and everything.
he is just a little baby.You dont discipline babies!!Even a tap on the hand is abusive imho-sorry I just think that makes me feel a bit sick.You distract him,pick him up,give him a cuddle,a tickle,a toy you do not ever hit a baby.
Agree with Aitch
'the little bugger' is only a whisper away from my pet peeve, 'the little shit'. Extremely disrespectful way to refer to a child, and I also didn't think you were talking about your own child. You're trying to soften what you actually said when picked up on it, mrsboogie.
Imvho, obviously.
i am for real, you didn't say little monster and you weren't talking about your child. it's a crappy way to refer to a baby, your own or not. plenty of research indicates that if you label your children at an early age they go on to live up to your labelling, it's something people should be wary of doing, even if they think it's a term of affection. maybe you were unaware of this?
marmite has such a reputation that i am too scared to try it
I also 'play drums' but that is in total affection and often accompanies lots of tickling.
I call him 'cheeky chops' and 'chunky monk' that is OK isn't it? I don't actually say words like 'bugger' myself but dont find other mums saying it when talking to me offensive (over the internet anyway)
I have had such a great day with him. So much difference in me just realising I dont need to get stressed or upset. Only problem is when I told my sister how I didn't want to be slapping at all and didnt want harsh 'no's she started judging and ranting!
'Oh but he DOES understand!' (I did try explaining why and how he doesn't - no difference)
Anyway i have told her now. She has no children and hasn't a clue how to look after them at ALL so I don't know where she thinks she got her baby physcology degree from!
dreamy i like that - mabye i should shorten my name to melty
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