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In thinkking that Partner is a selfish, ignorant arsewipe?

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By Sat 07-Nov-09 17:15:59 Add message | Report | Contact poster

So bloody

right now and need to rant!

DP (right now the D in that stands for dickhead

) told 3.5YO DS this morning that we would all go to the fireworks tonight so DS went for a sleep about 2 hours ago as it is on so late blah blah anyway DP went to his mates house at about 2pm to watch the football, I phoned him about 15 minutes ago to ask what was happening and this is how the convo went:

Me: So what's happening are you coming back over and we will head up or are you meeting us along the way?
DP: Well (friend's wife) is going to give us (meaning herself, her DP and their DD) to save us walking cause it's a bit cold
Me: Right so me and DS will just walk up in the cold ourselves in the dark and meet you there
DP: Well if you don't mind, but right enough you won't see us cause we will be there early and near the front and it'll be too crowded so I would'nt bother about that
Me: Well yes I do mind because it's a 30 minute walk, it's dark and cold and noone else I know will be going
DP: Well if that's how you want to be don't fucking go then but we are taking friend's DD anyway

He then hung up and turned phone off!

I am absolutely fuming and now I don't want to go because I hate being out alone in the dark never mind with DS and we need to alk through a quiet industrial estate which is creepy enough during the day! DP knows this yet it's fine for us but it's too fecking cold to walk with friend's DD! I feel terrible that DS is'nt getting to go now

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 08-Nov-09 08:28:50

Well, OP sounds like it's a situation both you and you DP are happy with and that's all that matters. smile

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 08-Nov-09 08:07:04

LOLOLOL
I had v similar last night. DH was supposed to get back from work at 5.30 in order for us to leave at 5.45. Phone was off and no sign of him. (turned out battery was flat) Ended up going on own to meet friends angry

there. I was v v v upset with him (how many family things do we get to go to???) Esp as I had offered to pick him up from work and he insisted on taking bus.

Ended up going to where he was so he could buy me bottle of wine and chocolate to take home while he went to pub hmm

which was original plan after fireworks anyway. But then he gave me £20 that he owed me plus £60 that I wasn't expecting so I let him off.

Glad it worked out ok for you too

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 22:35:54

I understand- but you do take a risk posting a slagorama here! Glad all is well smile

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 21:54:16

Right a few points to be re made me thinks...

No it's not okay that he swore at me but we both do that occassionally, it was'nt warranted in this situation granted but shit happens.

It was okay because he said he would come over here, which he did, and we would walk up to the fireworks together. Although we went and as soon as one went off DS nearly took a panic attack

so we left and went to his mates house for a while but me and DS are just back as friend's wife gave us a lift back as DS and her DD were nackered.

DP has never really had a single life, well not as an adult we have been together since we were 14 and that was almost 9 years ago now! Friend's wife and me are just totally different people so we talk when we have to but I don't feel the need to have the same friend's as my DP hmm

Oh and he also apologised for speaking to me like that apparently his mum was just off the phone doing his head in about us going there at christmas (she lives 100 miles away).

I go out every 2nd friday (my choice) and go ut once a week with my mum so it's not like I am grounded here, as I said we do enjoy having a life away from each other one night a week, we spend every night together otherwise so IMO it's a healthy deal for both of us

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 18:53:58

He swore at you but everything is ok now because you have £50 hmm

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 18:37:32

Have a good night, hope it stays fine for you smile

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 18:24:08

it is still odd and the idea of paying you off is even odder

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 18:23:14

OMG. He sounds like he doesn't give a damn about you or the child. What a prick.

Do you know where he mate lives? I would be getting a taxi round there and demanding to go in the car. He and his mate can walk.

And he goes out on the piss every Saturday night? what about you?

I would be seriously considering my position if I were you.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 18:17:59

agree with posieparker - you need to let him know that the way he spoke to you was wrong & that you wont stand for it or this will become a regular occurrence . enjoy the fireworks together as a family & maybe tomorrow mention this to him .

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 07-Nov-09 18:11:41

OP, your DP goes there every Saturday? Why not both come to your house?

I'm glad you'll have the night you had planned but can't help feeling your DP needs a reality check, why isn't his best friend's wife a friend of yours? Seems like he has kept his 'single'life rather separate from your life as a couple. The way he spoke to you is dreadful....take it from me that will never improve, only gets worse.

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