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To not put friend's kids photos on Facebook?

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By Wed 04-Nov-09 17:25:50 Add message | Report | Contact poster
Well, am I?

I love Facebook. I put lots of pictures of my kids / family / life on facebook. It works for me.

I have always, quite studiously, never included pictures I may have taken of my friend's children.

(I will e-mail them to the parents)

I've always thought that was probably best - I wouldn't like to assume that another parents (even a good friend) want photos of their child all over facebook and I would e-mail them photos so they could add them to a facebook account themselves if they wanted.

But, a friend today mentioned that I seemed a bit 'self absorbed' with my kids because I don't include other kids....

My kids are 17mo and 3mo, so not old enough to comment...

So what do you think? I've always thought it would be best to assume that the only people who should choose to put pictures of (young) children on the internet would be the parents? Or do I come across as really selfish? Only putting pictures of my kids on there?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 23:15:55
I wish the people I knew were as concientious as you. I don't like my kids pictures being on facebook. But regardless of my opinion, your friend is an idiot.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 23:06:31
You have all made me feel sooo much better about things.

I do go through my photos and select only those of my DS and DS for Facebook, and I do deselect any where other children are very obvious... But I don't do this because I don't care about the other kids, just that I don't think it's my right to do that.

And, I think the majority verdict is that it's the right decision unless another agreement has been made!!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:28:49
YANBU. The second you post a pic of someone elses child they'll complain about it.

I once posted a pic on Facebook of my DD and her little friend (who I didn't actually want in the pic in the first place) to show my sis who lives abroad that DD was wearing an outfit she sent over.

The friend made me take the pic off because she doesn't want other people seeing her DD.

I found it a bit precious tbh, who is she Michael Jackson? It was one picture!

I post so many pics of DD on Facebook because of my sis, but I'd say 80% of them are in private albums and are rarely of non- family children.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 09:00:57
By definition FB is self absorbed! Its all about you you you!

But even if it wasn't, you are not being self absorbed by not putting up pictures of friend's children. You're being polite.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 08:52:05
YANBU. I put pictures up of my nieces and nephews, because my sisters do - restricted to friends, of course - but would not put pictures of any other children up without their parents' express permission.

I don't post pictures of my goddaughter, even though her mum does, because her dad is really uncomfortable about it.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 18:51:59
oh and i have privacy restrictions on FB too
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 18:50:06
If i take pictures of my dd and there are friends children in the pictures i aways ask them if its ok to put them on Facebook as i use it quite regularly, there has never been a no as yet.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 18:48:34
YANBU at all. I wouldn't even put pictures of my new baby niece. She's not 'mine' to post up on a site.

My DS yes, my DH yes, My mum and dad, yes. But all my settings are to maximum privacy, so no-one outside my 'friends' gets to see anything anyway.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 18:30:12
YANBU, you are being thoughtful. I am okay about people putting up pictures of DS, but tbh wouldn't do the reverse for the reasons you mention. My sister explicitly asked us not to put any pictures of her family on a passworded internet site we have. Her children, her choice.

Lol at self-absorbed comment - I can't even begin to imagine why anybody would say that. Are they usually extremely opinionated and tactless, or are you really sure they're a friend?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 18:26:37
Yanbu.

Mind you not so long ago there was a thread on MN where someone objected to her sister or friend putting pictures of her dc on facebook, and she was roundly jumped on by loads of posters telling her not to be so silly and controlling and "owning" her child hmm.

But I don't do facebook, I don't have pictures of myself up on the internet, and I don't want pictures of my dc up either.

So yanbu. Very thoughtful of you op.
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