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DS is 20 months old. I'm 39+2 at the moment and waiting for DS2 to pop. DS came at 39 weeks so feeling a bit fed up as it is. Have tried several things to get things going. Walked several miles two days ago and all it gave me was leg cramps. Had sex yesterday and all it did was gave me bad cramps half the night so I couldn't sleep!
The inlaws have asked for DS to stay overnight with them since the day he was born. Being PFB, I haven't felt comfortable with that and swore I will only do it when I feel he can understand and I felt ready to let go. Also, the inlaws and us disagree on how to do certain things when DS was born but most of these differences have disappeared now that DS is no longer a baby. We go and stay with the inlaws once every few weeks overnight (they come up to visit us too but never overnight) for the weekends so he is very familiar with them and their house and the last couple of times, I've felt DS is ready for an overnight stay as he does love them, they adore him of course and most of the time we are there, they disappear with him for walks with the dogs, playing in the garden etc and he loves it! They are only an hour's drive away BTW.
MIL has offered to have DS stay when DS2 pop but I do feel strongly that I want DS to be here when we bring DS2 home. I don't want him to feel we 'sent' him away when DS2 is born. However, I am now seriously contemplating letting them have DS overnight this weekend at the risk that DS will miss the birth (I will be giving birth at hospital). At the moment, I am seriously struggling with doing anything vigorous with DS. With constant Braxton Hicks and cramps and not sleeping well at night, I am not a happy bunny. I can barely pick him up. DS is home with me today so we will try and do as much as possible. He is in nursery Thursday and Friday.
What do you all feel about me sending DS to the inlaws this weekend? I think he will really enjoy it. But my fear is that if I do pop this weekend, will I scar him for life in making him think we 'sent him way'? If I don't, I think it will be a much needed chance for DH and I to spend some time just chilling out before all hell breaks loose! My inlaws (FIL works flexi hours and MIL has a 3 days a week job), I am sure, will bring DS back when we come home from the hospital (if I do have the baby this weekend). On one hand, I think it's nice for DS to start going to the grandparents before DS2 arrives so he doesn't associate the two together. Am I worrying too much?
What would you do in my position? Thanks!
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