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To be really nervous about my wedding tomorrow?

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Congratulations Memoo! Glad you had a wonderful day smile
Just a quick update, I really did have the best day ever! When I actually stood there infront of DH saying my vows all my nerves just vanished, its just felt 100% like the right thing to do.

Have been knackered all week though! being 29 weeks pregnant and getting married and always a good combo! and I sent my GD haywire because i ate a huge piece of wedding cake and loads of sugary things grin
Good Luck Memoo - you will be FINE and it will all be fantastic grin Congratulations x
Memoo - So excited for you. Have a lovely day. The weather looks beautiful. Smile, breathe, slow down, and think to yourself: I am at the most wonderful party in whole the world, all to celebrate how much someone loves me! Personally, I think that's the best party theme ever!

Don't forget to come back on to MN to update us later. I mean, you won't be doing anything else will you? wink
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 07:56:47
Good luck memoo, have a fab day!!

This thread has made me come over all funny. I get married 3 weeks today and nerves hadn't even come into it, but now reading this and seeing how you were feeling the night before has got my heart thumping. I can just imagine it and I think I'm going to be a nervous wreck now!
qually, what a lovely post!

keep your fingers crossed for me today ]smile]
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 03:07:11
I was DREADING my wedding, so terrified, just wanted it to be over and done with and out the way. It felt like some horrifying cross between a major exam and an operation and at some very basic level I was quite, quite sure it couldn't actually come to pass. (Should add that my dad is on wife number 4 and mum never remarried, though I had a stepfather - but that also broke down. I had ishoos.)

About halfway up the aisle, hand in hand with dh (we went in together, snarling from nerves tbh) I realised I wasn't scared. At some point early in the reception I suddenly realised it was genuinely the best day of my life - all the people we most loved, all having a lovely party to celebrate DH and I being nuts about one another. It was very, very special.

Take a few moments together, just to enjoy the day. You'll remember those moments, and if you think dc's infancy goes fast...!

We've been married 4 years now. Life is fab. Scaredness means nothing except you know this is a big/final commitment.

Congrats, and enjoy your day!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 02:47:12
I've never been married but I guess nerves are normal, 2 of my old school friends are also getting married on 4th July.

Good Luck for the wedding and I hope you have a very happy future together
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 21:55:16
Congratulations!! It is completely normal to be bricking it.

Have a wonderful day and take time to enjoy it, as it whizzing past so quickly.
Of course it's normal to be nervous before a big event.
Have the most wonderful day and just remember to keep breathing.

I didn't get time to get nervous before my wedding as we were moving house that morning BUT I did feel really really anxious in the middle of the night AFTER the ceremony. Perhaps it was nerves or too much champers. ANyway 18 months on I'm happier than ever.

Have a wonderful wonderful day and remember it's not the wedding it's the marriage thats the important thing.

PS : Remember to keep breathing.......
BIG hugs.
Ahh bless her, she was so sweet (sil), if you do laugh and cry it will be endearing, so dont worry at all!
'sure i will be' blush should be 'sure it will be'

I'm pretty sure i wont be memorable grin
""i remember my sil laughed and cried at the same time through her vows ""

That will so be me Vinegartits!!!!!
My name doesn't begin with G Alestorm it begins with J, how about your friend Omfg?

Beanieb, I don't think my wedding could ever be low key enough for me, if DP could just sneak off on our own I think I might have just done that.

Thanks everyone for all the lovely words and advice, I'll remember to relax my shoulders on the photos Kalo, thats a good tip smile
It is only natural to be nervous, i remember my sil laughed and cried at the same time through her vows (hilarious) hope your day in wonderful and memorable (sure i will be) good luck!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 21:22:02
make sure you aren't tensing/hunching your shoulders when being photographed. keep them down.

down walk too fast down the aisle, milk it a bit

enjoy your day
You'll have a wonderful day smile

Neither DH or I could eat or sleep for about 3 days before our wedding. It was horrible and I was utterly convinced he was going to run away (and I couldn't rule out me running away either).

We had the best day of our lives, our only complaint being that it went so quickly. It goes soooooooooooooo fast.

Wishing you a fabulous day tomorrow x
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:50:09
Oh how lovely a wedding, hope your day is wonderful, don't worry about nerves, it's a big event but when you get to the end of the aisle and you're holding his hand everything else will fade away and you'll just feel huge huge love. You'll smile so much your cheeks will ache and it will be the best day ever. Enjoy!!
oh lovely congratulations smile

take some rescue remedy and that will help with your nerves
CONGRATULATIONS!

- You will enjoy it I am certain!!!

<Looks forward to the feedback... grin>
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:12:54
I'm going to a wedding tomorrow. Is it yours? grin wink

Seriously, I was exactly the same the night before my wedding. I don't like being the centre of attention either but the day was great and I'd do it again tomorrow. Nerves are normal. Good luck.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:06:26
"I'm not nervous about actually being married its just the actual day itself. I hate being the centre of attention hence we are only having quite a low key wedding but I still want everything to go right"

CONGRATULATIONS!

you sound like me. I'm getting married in 3 weeks and I am dreading all the fuss. Mine is low key too, just not low key enough IMO grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:04:31
best of luck. Nerves are normal, I was scared shitless when I got married.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:02:53
I was so nervous the night before my wedding - I didn't sleep at all and thought I'd ruin the whole day by being knackered. I was bricking it right up to the moment I walked into the church and saw DH who gave me an enormous smile and I felt fine then really enjoyed the day.

Have a great time and don't wish it away, I'm sure once the vows are done and you relax you'll have a brilliant time xxxxx
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:51:31
Oooh, my friend is getting married tomorrow

*wonders if memoo is her friend*
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:50:58
photographer

hot he was not
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:50:40
(the time to panic pre wedding is when you have an affair with the wedding hotographer starting in the run up, as my friend did.

Nerves are nothing in comparison.....)
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:49:35
Hope it all goes well memoo, performance nerves are normal I think, if you're not one for the limelight

Congrats and good lcuk
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:45:01
Oh I hope you have a lovely, lovely day! You probably won't be all that nervous when it finally gets under way it is just the anticipation. And it is quite normal.

I know I woke up on my wedding day feeling absolutlely sick with nerves and this was made worse by my Mum being so stressed out that she threw an absolute wobbler at about 9am and threatened to get the bus in to town and not come back! Anyway tears all round but that burst the bubble and we all calmed down a bit.

22 years on and we are still going strong so wedding nerves are clearly not a sign of anything wrong with the relationship.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:37:17
I couldn't eat before my wedding either. Was so nervous just before the service - though not so much leading up to it (though I must have been subconsciously as I never go off my food usually grin). With me it was the whole being the centre of attention thing too. I ate loads at the reception though! Was relieved I think and more relaxed.

Have a lovely day.
YANBU -it's a big day and in some ways stressful. If you were nervous about being married then that would be a totally different thing.

I also think it's perfectly normal not to be nervous. Neither dh nor I was nervous at all, in fact by 2pm on the wedding day I felt like screaming "oh for heavens sake let's be done with all this faffing and get on with it!".

Congratulations in advance, I hope you have a wonderful time smile.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:22:18
YANBU at all, I think it might be slightly odd if you weren't nervous at all! wink

Just remember that everyone there is there to wish you well, to show how much they like you, how much they care and how happy they are for you. Yes it's a lot of attention but it's positive attention.

Congratulations and feel the love! smile
Noooo, don't drink - didn't you see Steve & Becky's non-wedding on Corrie?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:11:20
I was nervous as well, but didn't let it show until we were signing the register.

When I farted.

grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:11:13
Oooh, how exciting. Have a lovely day - I am sure you will feel better tomorrow.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:09:29
One of my best friends is getting married tomorrow - your name doesn't begin with a G does it? wink

On my wedding day my dh forgot his own name during the wedding vows - the registrar cocked up the pronunciation of one of his middle names and he copied her! It was highly amusing.

Hope you have a lovely day! grin
DifferentID, I was just glancing at the replies since mine on threads I'm on, and yours read "Nerves the night before are fab. Don't worry about cock" gringrin

Good advice!
I am 28 weeks pregnant so can't really have a drink but maybe just one to steady my nerves won't hurt?

I'm not nervous about actually being married its just the actual day itself. I hate being the centre of attention hence we are only having quite a low key wedding but I still want everything to go right.

I almost want it all to be over but thats really sad isn't it?

I do have some rescue rememdy in somewhere, wonder if its ok to take while pregnant?

I might actually have a small glass of wine tonight to help me sleep!!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:03:54
nerves the night before are fab. Don't worry about cocking up the words of your vows- it won't matter. Tomorrow is just the first day in your married life, enjoy it.
Yes it's normal. It's a big day, in lots of ways: it's important, you want it to be perfect, you're nervous because you have vows to make, you'll have a lot of friends/relatives turning up, it's like throwing a big party, with knobs on... yes it's normal to be nervous! Surely he's a bit nervous too?

My wedding - didn't eat either, on the day it pissed down with rain, but you know I found that I didn't mind, I was floating on air! You will be surrounded by people who care about you, who wish the very best for you, and who want to have a good time with you. So, make sure you relax and revel in being a princess for a day.

I'll be thinking of you, enjoy it!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:00:37
Try to relax a bit.

It is normal to be nervous.

I was bricking it the night before, but on the actual day I was really chilled.

Congratulations and enjoy your day.smile
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:00:19
I wanted to run away on the evening before my wedding. It was only the fact that I was sleeping in the same room as my bridesmaids that stopped me! Have now been married for 8 years and we're expecting our third child. It is totally reasonable to be nervous - I later worked out that I was not nervous about getting married so much as being the centre of attention which I hate.
And fear of things that might go wrong like flowers not turning up etc You will be fine - have a lovely day xxx
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 19:00:08
are you nervous about being married

or nervous about being the centre of attention at a big event?

if the latter, totally understandable, you will look gorgeous and all will be fine smile

if the former, do some thinking
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 18:59:35
Congratulations!

I felt fine on my wedding day till I got to the door to walk up the aisle and realised that everyone was looking at me..... grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 18:59:31
I think it is normal to be nervous - you will be the star of the day and I imagine you have spent ages - and loads - getting everything organised.

Being nervous does not mean anything negative with regards your feelings for your soon to be husband IMHO.

I wish you a lovely day tomorrow - do try to get some sleep tonight and eat something so that you have the energy to get through the day.

I remember my wedding (to now ExH but wedding went well!) and the break between the morning ceremony/meal and the evening do was just what we needed to have a rest! Being a bride is such a big role for the day!

Good luck.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 18:58:46
It's normal.

Doesn't mean anything about your relationship - it means that you're worried about the WEDDING. Which is one day. But a big, stressful one that you want to be perfect.
Of course it is! Have a drink to calm your nerves, dull the excitement to a quiet roar. And have a lovely day tomorrow!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 18:57:12
Ohhhhh Congratulations!!!! You will have a great day. Do you have any Rescue Remedy? I was quite stressed out before my wedding - a few drops of that and I had a brilliant relaxed day.
Tell your DH not to worry and you just try to relax.
I'm getting married tomorrow and am absolutely bricking it. I'm so nervous I haven't even been able to eat all day.

DP thinks it is a bad sign that I am nervous but I absolutely love him to bits and I'm only so nervous because our relationship and the wedding really matter to me?

Surely its normal to be really nervous?
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