OK, for background, my DS has been at his new nursery since July last year and after some initial teething problems has been very happy. He was 4 in Feb, and starts school in September. He has been at full time nursery since he was 6 months old so is very used to the structured enviroment
They used to have a 'Friendship Flower' which was a behaviour tool- you were good name was on, naughty (or whatever word they use for naughty cos they aren't allowed to say naughty!) your name came off, good again it went back on. Of course names could come on and off all day long.
The nursery decided that it wasn't working any more so they decided to move to a new system which is a 'ladder' of 1-6 and each child has a bee with their name on which climbs the ladder and if they get into the bee-hive they get a certificate. Good behavior takes them up a rung, bad down- all very simple
However it really doesnt seem to be working for DS and he is getting very upset, and becoming extremely negative about going to nursery saying he doesnt want to go and that he hates the bee's ( ) and doesn't like being there. he also says he doesn't care anymore about the bee-hive because he will never get there anyway, so there is no point in being good.
When collecting DS there is no mention of him having been naughty- I get told he enjoyed making pizzas today, or he wanted to keep these 'megazords' he made you to show you or he did this lovely picture. yet 3 times recently when I have collected him I have asked where his name is and been told it has been sent out of the room!! Surely if he has been naughty enough for his bee to be excluded fromt he room, thats something I should know about. And in theory means he has been naughty more than half the day consistently?
I think I probaly ABU to ask them to change a system just because of DS aren't I? But any ideas from wise Mn-ers on how I could deal with it would be great. He has 4 more months of this before he goes to school, and I simply cant have an unhappy little boy for 4 days let alone that long
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AIBU?
I suspect I am, but would value some input
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dreamteamgirl · 23/04/2009 13:03
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