at being annoyed at dh going on at me about how much driving we do, and how much he is spending on petrol?

[stitch]

i limit the number of car journeys, but the lifestyle we live, i cant do without a car. and he was the one who chose to live seventy miles away from where he works.
its not my fault the price of petrol has gone through the roof

[PeaGreene]

YANBU but it sounds like he's fretting about it. Is he blaming you or is he just going on about it generally.

[pinkyp]

yanbu - tell him to buy u a diesel car you'll get more miles to the gallon

[Flibbertyjibbet]

70 miles!! Does he actually commute that? No wonder he is complaining about what he spends on petrol, but it sounds to be self-inflicted.

[stitch]

generally going on about it.
but sort of blaming me at the same time. he has a knack for doing so.

[stitch]

he stays there one night a week, and works from home two days a week.
self inflicted is the right word. he chose to live here, not me.
he wont buy me a diesel. he wont buy me anything! i get his cast offs! ( i'm not moaning, his cast offs are very nice cars. )
right. he is being unreasonable blaming me for it then. i shall continue to cycle and walk as much as possible, which i do anyways. but we still have to use the car an awful lot. i shall keep my conscience clear.

[PeaGreene]

Sounds like he's just looking for someone to blame cos he knows it's his fault really. Desperately trying to deflect it.

and failing. Bless him.