IVe no money and virtually no food in the house. For the past two years ive lived like this. He has earnt 7K on average and no benefits coming in.
He is a carpenter and very good at what he does, but cannot organise the business at all, so he has irate clients on his back all the time, he has to work ridiculous hours to get jobs done, for what??
Now i know there is an obvious answer to this, i should get a job, i do have earning potential but very little experience. I cannot do the part time thing because we would lose the tax credits we are finally getting and childcare costs bla bla bla - but thats not the point, i really really dont want my little girl cared for by strangers and only seeing her for an hour before bedtime.
So i am lazy and selfish???? But my point is this - if he were to give up on the business and see sense, get a job he could earn 30K and we would be OK (just, as you can imagine two years of earning next to nothing we have acrued a lot of debt - borrowing just to pay the mortgage etc) Its such a mess. If all he could earn was 7K then i would no question get a job, but when you look at things logically it wouldnt matter if i were earning 100K, him running a business that is basically losing money is just plain stupid.
I am at breaking point, i have been sobbing on front of DD all morning and staring at a big packet of tablets that i should be returning to the chemist (ive had them since my father died two years ago) and thinking i could end this now, Im not going to, i want to believe me, because i hate breathing right now but i coudlnt do that to my little girl, i love her so much i cant describe. I fucked up with her sister so much, i was so interested in my own career that i dumped her on my parents all the time so i could study and work, what was that all for?? I now have a teenage daughter that barely speaks to me, lives with her boyfriend and is busy letting life pass by her.
I am full of so much resentment for DP just now, i love him dearly but right now i dont want him, i dont want this life - if i walk away i wont have much but its got to be better than all of this stress = i can only take so much, im not a strong person.
AIBU?
To resent that my DPS attempts at running a business are destroying our family
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