I probably am but need to just get this off my chest before I start my working day. My 2.5 year old has been having the most outrageous tantrums recently that can go on for 3 hours at a time. I was having rant about this the other day in an email to my family who all live abroad and very rarely see my children.
This morning I open my inbox to find an email from my mother telling me that leaving a child to scream for 3 hours is unacceptable and that instead I need to hold him and shush him to help him calm down.
Now A) I don't leave him to scream for 3 hours. I said the tantrums last 3 hours during which time we try distraction, ignoring, time out, attempted cuddles you name it. But when he's determined that he wants something, he doesn't let go easily
B) I know that children having a tantrum aren't in control of their emotions and often need help to calm down - which I do try. But it seldom works.
My mother's note was meant to be well meaning but it's just upset me. Mainly because I think that she thinks I'm doing a crappy job raising my kids.
I'm tempted to buy her a ticket here and say: ok, he's having a tantrum. Knock yourself out and get him to calm down.
Sigh. Must work now. But feel free to tell me that she was just trying to be helpful
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JoshandJamie · 18/04/2008 09:01
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