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AIBU?

because one of 7yo DD's classmates has phoned here about 20 times this week?

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Sugarmagnolia · 17/04/2008 15:32

My DD has recently discovered the pleasure of talking to her friends on the phone. There are one or two of them who she asks if she's allowed to phone from time to time and although I kind of feel she's a little young for it I don't really object. Anyway, suddenly last week on of the girl's in DD's class - who in 4 years since they started nursery together she has never once played with outside of school - has started phoning here. I thought it was cute at first. But she keeps phoning again and again, sometimes 4 or 5 times a day. I either let DD speak to her for 10 minutes or so and then tell her she has to go or I answer the phone and tell this girl that DD will phone her back the next day but she just keeps phoning!

So I finally spoke to this girl's mother - I tried to make a joke of it - 'ha ha I guess your DD really wants to come and play, do you know she's phoned here about 20 times this week?' The other mother just replied - 'yes your DD phones here a lot too, what are they like, silly girls'. My DD only phones her back because otherwise she won't stop phoning!

So AIBU? Is it really as annoying as I think or is it just cute?

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Saturn74 · 17/04/2008 15:34

Get an answerphone.

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windygalestoday · 17/04/2008 15:35

if its bothering you just answer the phone and say she cant speak today cos youre all busy but she will see you in school tomorrow,if she rings back say no shes busy i told you .....she will get the hint ....i think bt have given everyone free evening and weekend calls

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Sugarmagnolia · 17/04/2008 15:44

humphrey - we do have an answerphone - she just leave very long rambling messages on them! 2 this morning while we were out shopping, several yesterday.

windy - I've tried that as well but she just phones back again half an hour later. The thing is, DD doesn't even really want to speak to her!

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SheWillBeLoved · 17/04/2008 15:58

Just tell her that DD is busy... outside.. playing. Mention it's a nice day and suggest she does the same

If she still calls, ask her to put her mum on the phone, and then politely tell her mum to ask her daughter to stop calling so much as your partner is expecting an important call any time now and she is hogging the bloody line all day

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MrsWeasley · 17/04/2008 16:11

my DD has a friend like this but they are 12. She rings constantly and if the answer machine clicks in she rings again straight away and does they 7 or 8 times.
She also rings at meal times and says to DD "right eat quickly I'm ringing back in 7 minutes" and does actually ring back in 7 mins.

Constantly rings during the holidays to see what we are doing and to try to persuade DD to sleepover (DD hates sleeping over since last year when this other girl kept trying to kiss her and touch her .

It's a pain and now DD wont answer the phone

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faroffsomewhere · 17/04/2008 16:20

my 12 yr old had a friend like that./
Constant.
And if you put the answerphone on, she would just wait and go on and on leaving messages.
Sugar, they'll probably fall out.
In my experience 12 yr olds fall out about every ten minutes.
It's worse when they're not talking

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Kitti · 17/04/2008 16:42

My daughter has a friend who has recently started this - she's 8. It gets annoying but we let them ramble on so long as the other girl's parents' are paying for the call. I'm hoping her mum cuts it down soon when she gets her phone bill!! I tell my dd that she can't call back until after 6pm and then we usually forget.

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Fimbo · 17/04/2008 16:48

I removed MSN from the pc because of similar problems. We would constantly receive phone calls asking if dd could go on it as her friends wanted to chat to her. It really became a PITA.

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MrsWeasley · 17/04/2008 17:06

my DS and his friends are the opposite. They are 7 one will ring to ask a question, it usually gets a yes or no answer, then they say goodbye. Short and to the point. It makes me laugh

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Sugarmagnolia · 17/04/2008 17:09

ah, but that's boys for you!

I mean, I do remember spending lots of time on the phone with my BFF(grin] but I'm sure I was closer to 12 than 7!

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susiecutiebananas · 17/04/2008 17:12

Thats boys for you MRsW! I witness similar from my DH!

Fimbo, surely, MSN is etter than the phone going constantly though? I guess its all about learning social etiquette at this age. I remember it well.

I don't recall ever calling someone over and over... actually, I did if the phone rand out, but back then, there were few answer phones in homes and certainly no caller display, so no-one would have known I called 10 times when someone was out! I must have thought if I bombarded them, they would know to come home? god knows!

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susiecutiebananas · 17/04/2008 17:13

Xposts! great minds sugar!

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Broodybabywannabe · 17/04/2008 19:47

is it perhaps this girl is an only child and lonely maybe? im sure she doesnt mean to harass you but can see how it would get annoying!

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Sugarmagnolia · 17/04/2008 19:57

Well she's got a little sister but I'm more annoyed at the parents really for either having no idea that their 6yo was on the phone every 5 minutes or for knowing and not caring. I would certainly know if my child was using the phone and would put a stop to it if she were phoning the same person over and over (and over and over). And over!

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