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AIBU?

to think my friend should be here by now?

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vicky1984 · 17/04/2008 12:23

Iv'e only seen my so called friend once since my last dd was born 9 months ago.

I saw her in town the other day &we arranged to meet at mine today she said she would be here at 12 so i'm waiting to do luch for my dd's but can't as she will expect lunch when she gets here.

Shes always late evan when we used to meet in town and it really pisses me off.

just rang her and she hasn't evan left hers yet.I just dont get why she said 12 if shes not gonna be here till gone 1.

i dont wanna be cooking lunch twice and she never brings her dd anything to eat.

Im not a bitch btw i will do lunch but it would be nice if i was asked rather than her just think i will.

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bigdonna · 17/04/2008 12:35

hope she comes soon i have friends like that i always tell them at least 30 mins before i would like them to arrive and joke with them too

vicky1984 · 17/04/2008 12:37

its just so annoying
ive started cooking lunch and this time if she moans i'll tell her not to bother coming anymore.

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lottiejenkins · 17/04/2008 12:40

I know how you feel. I hate being late going anywhere to the point where i now get back to LS Station an hour and three quarters early rather than have to rush and risk missing the train........ I would remind her about tardy timekeeping

hecate · 17/04/2008 12:41

why do lunch if she's not here at lunch time? Not your problem. Feed your kids for pitys sake! They come before the convinence of a 'friend' who hasn't bothered with you for months, can't be bothered to show up when she said she will or phone you to tell you she's running late - and she may very well have already eaten! If she hasn't, so what? What's she going to do? Say "Where's my food?"

I can't abide people who think they are so much more important than others. It's like they think you should be falling over with gratitude that they showed up at all.

I wouldn't make them anything and if the daughter says she's hungry, give her a biscuit or something.

SheWillBeLoved · 17/04/2008 12:46

She is putting you and your kids out by being late - so now don't worry about 'putting her out' by not having her and her daughters lunch ready for them upon a very late arrival. Ya snooze ya lose.

If she asks where her lunch is, points towards the snack cupboard with a big gobful of whatever you've cooked for you and the kids

hifi · 17/04/2008 12:47

if she hasnt bothered with you for 9 months i wouldnt go to all that trouble if she hasnt the decency to turn uop on time, hopefully you are clearing you lunch as she arrives. you will just have to say a shame she missed it.

vicky1984 · 17/04/2008 12:51

shes just phoned to ask what i'm doing dd1 for lunch i replied pizza and chips and she said oh good my dd loves that.

i said its cooking if shes not here she can have it cold and she said ok.

god im a mug

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SheWillBeLoved · 17/04/2008 12:55

A decent reply from her would have been "Oh it won't have to be cold, i'll be there by then".. No?

hifi · 17/04/2008 12:57

hide underneath the window when she comes.

hecate · 17/04/2008 13:00

yes you are.

Ambi · 17/04/2008 13:01

it's frustrating isn't it? My friend was supposed to be popping over yesterday, but cancelled and rescheduled for "sometime" today. I was so fed up with his flakiness that I've been out all morning, and will be going out again this afternoon and if he turns up then it's tough. Friends will make the effort, I've been over to his a few times since DD was born, he's been across once. He doesn't get that it's not easy planning an outing with a 3 month old. I hope you manage to sort it out though.

booblue · 17/04/2008 13:03

Phone her back and say you have just had a call and you need to go out.

Really sorry bla bla
play her at her own game

Had a friend just like that
Its not worth the stress

booblue · 17/04/2008 13:04

p.s Ur not a mug just being thoughtfull

Which she is not

bitofadramaqueen · 17/04/2008 13:08

It is annoying if someone is always late, but if someone is always late then there really isn't much you can do to change their behaviour.

I've got a friend who's a bit the same but rather than being p'd off with her when we make arrangements I work on the assumption that she will be late.

Her just assuming you will put on lunch is a different matter though. I might have been tempted to say, actually can you come at 1 so I can get lunch out of the way first.

hifi · 17/04/2008 17:09

has she gone yet vicky? any goss?

hecate · 17/04/2008 17:10

did she arrive in the first place, is the question!

SheWillBeLoved · 17/04/2008 17:12

@ hecate

vicky1984 · 17/04/2008 20:40

Yes she went about an hour ago her little girl was asleep when my dd's had their dinner so she didn't have any.

hifi not goss just the usual crap about does she really love her dp or should she leave him blah blah blah

Thanks for the advice!!!!!!!

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