To want my DH to buggar off back to work

[kbaby]

I find having DH here a lot more stressful than if he wasnt. All weve done all weekend is bicker.
My problem is that I expect him to do things and then when he doesnt I get annoyed and peed off with him.
for example.
Friday we got up, he went on the internet and put a dvd on for DD while I did breakfast, cleaned kitchen and got clothes ready for everyone.
Then I got dressed, got the dc dressed and did washing etc while he got himself ready. We went out for the day and when we got home, I did dinner, more washing and tidied toys away while he set his playstation up.
Saturday I worked all morning and then took DS to a party, when I got home DH was watching the rugby and then asked me what I was cooking for dinner because he'd be home looking after DC all morning and DD in the afternoon!!!!! Sorry I didnt realise being at work all morning meant that I had to come home and be a slave too.

Bfore we had DC I wouldnt have said that he was lazy but since having kids he most definetly is. He says its me as I expect things to be done NOW. Whereas I say that he does nothing while im the one constantly on the go, making beds, tidying, sorting washing, letters and kids stuff and he does none of that. Its so much bettr when he isnt here. I know that I have to cook dinner for DC or get them dressed whereas if hes here i expect him to help and he doesnt or does but makes twice the mess
Am I unreasonable to feel resentful?

[TheBestMum]

God, are we married to same bloke??
My dh has just gone back to work after 2 weeks off & I'm SOOO glad.
All we've done is the odd half day-trip out & even then I've had to virtually force him ('it's too cold...'blah de blah).
I too have the, 'well I've looked after ds for 2 milliseconds so can't possibly do/think of anything else for the rest of the day'....drives me insane.
So despite ds being poorly today & being ratty, snotty nosed & clingy, at least the other child in my life has buggered off back to the office.....so I can get on with stuff without it turning into a song & a dance!

[shoshe]

I know how you feel, DH spends about 9 months of the year away, with the odd day here and there home, then the next month working on just up the home and goes in at 9 and is often home by lunch time, then spends the next SIX weeks at home.

By the time he comes off the road and is home I am soo ready for him to be home, by the time the six weeks are up I WANT TO KILL HIM!

[kbaby]

Im not alone.

I dream about going away for a week and not telling him where anything is or preparing anything before hand, and waiting for him to get stressed out or realise how hard it is. In reality I know that if I did that he wouldnt be stressed or anything because all he wouldve done is fed himself nd the kids while the housework just go forgotten about.

And why is it always me who has to take the DC to birthdy parties?