Would very much appreciate some impartial advice from mnetters on this one.
XP and I are separated, we both work full time and share custody of DS. I'd say we have an ok relationship, by which I mean we get on for DS sake. Over the past 2 years we have shared joint custody. Half the week he is with me and half with his Dad.
Until recently this worked because we lived within 15 minutes of each other. However, XP moved 30 miles away 6 months ago(his choice, wanted to buy somewhere with a garden - he is very well off and I'm not).
He wants to move DS to a nursery in his new home town 1 day a week. I don't want him to do this for two main reasons - I think it will be yet more disruption for him being moved to another nursery, and also because XP and I both work away from this place. I don't drive so would have to use public transport to get to him. This would take at least an hour. XP drives but it will take about an hour to get there too. I'm really worried about what would happen in an emergency. In all likelihood it would be me that needed to pick him up because my job is far more flexible (hence the lower pay!) and XP works away very frequently and often can't be reached.
XP says his new partner can pick DS up (they have a good relationship)and he also has friends in the area. But surely it should be me or his Dad? And I don't like the idea of being so far away from my son in the event that something goes wrong. Maybe thats just instinctive.
So, AIBU, or precious? I really don't know. My main concern is for DS. Please believe me when I say that I am not objecting on the grounds of spite. It just feels wrong.
Thanks for reading through that, any advice welcome!
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My XP wants to move DS to a different nursery..I don't want him to. AIBU?
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Janos · 24/03/2008 15:31
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