This is such a long and potentially boring tale I hope someone can give you some impartial advice.
Background:
My dh comes from a very dysfunctional family (in my eyes) There are 3 children including my dh who is the eldest,a middle brother and a younger sister.
The middle brother is very ambitious, a real high flier/achiever, he has as little to do with his parents (due to his upbringing) but remains a dutiful son in some respects (always visits but keep sthem at a distance) Dh's sister, the youngest was, from what I have been told, very indulged she was a very wanted daughter and the parents spoilt her form day one. Dh isn't too bothered about this (he says) but I believe this is in part due to his being conditioned to accept his lot over the years, unlike middle brother who is very feisty and has never put up with anything he did n't like
The problem:
My MIL had some property, she had it for a while and quite fancies herself as an entrepeneur, the truth of the matter is she has collected a number of businesses which have failed over the year when she gets bored. Whlist trying to renovate the recent property she was victim to a con artist and was fleeced to such an extent that she faced having to give up the lot. Nobody was interested not even her husband. The middle brother openly berated MIL for being such an idiot, her dd stopped calling round (in case I suspect she was asked for help and because MIL had no money to give her) even her husband wasn't interested. She begged my dh for help and he agreed but there were conditions. he said that he would bail her out but that if that were the case he would want a share of the profits for the following reasons:
- It was very high risk and he was putting our home at risk
- he already had a demanding job that saw him going away from his family adding another full time job on top of that meant he wanted to be certain that we would see the long term rewards of this
- We would, until the project had been turned around be totally skint, really watching the pennies because he was comitted both in terms of time and debt
4.The time away from me and the kids
MIL assured him that if he took it over (she gave the reins to him completely) that she would agree to all.
Roll on nearly 4 years (it has been very hard) I find out that the reason his sister does not speak to us (she has never wated to meet my baby)is because she is furious that we are close to completion and may (if luck is on our side)be in line for a very substantial profit. It could mean to us that we can move house and not have to shop in salmonella corner in the supermarkets and buy our children charity shop toys and clothes.
I am so hurt that she could be so selfish in first considering that what my dh has worked so bloody hard for she is entitled to and that she puts money in front of her having a relationship with my children.
Am I being unreasonable? Should she get a third of the profits?
Middle brother is appauled and asked us if she was expecting to get a third of dh's xmas bonus too? he has told us he wanted nothing to do with the project and put nothing in as so expects nothing back?
Am I too wrapped up in this? Are we doign something really wrong here?
Thanks for reading this.