To be pissed off with my sister for the millionth time this year.

[mumblesmummy]

I'm sure people will have read my posts on my sis before.

I'm just fed up now because she keeps saying to my mum she'll come down for tea, but then she rings after it's made and says she'll just pick the food up for her and her H and go home. That's so rude.

Sometimes she begs my mum to make her dinner and take it to work so mum has to cook tea in the morning!! Or she'll say she's coming down to see the family on Saturdays and Sundays and because she can't be bothered cooking, she gets my mum to make her H a full english breakfast, and her something seperate.

She also gets my mum to buy her shopping because she 'can't afford it', but it turns out they're bringing in a bigger wage than mum and dad.

Mum's fed up of it, and run down, and feeling used, but doesn't know how to say no and doesn't want to start world war three.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....

AIBU????!!!!

[lalalonglegs]

Personally, I'd be more annoyed with your mother for putting up with it.

[TheArmadillo]

YANBU.

Can you have a word with her or have you tried to no effect?

Your mum really needs to stand up to her or she will carry on doing it. Can you be with her when she does - for moral support?

[3NAB]

tell your sister to grow up and stop putting on your mother

[mumblesmummy]

She won't do it with me there, but I've begged her today to have a word and she says she will try.

She doesn't want to me to mention it to my sister, though I've dropped a hint with my sis today.

She's just their door mat.

I'm especially annoyed with it today because it's easter sunday and mum wanted us all to have a sit down meal and they've done it again... THEY'RE COLLECTING IT!!!!!!!!!!! How rude!!

[mumblesmummy]

My sister is 31 and her H is 38!!!!!!!!! no word of a lie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ShinyDysonHereICome]

Oh I would be absolutey furious and couldn't stop myself from saying something!

[shatteredmumsrus]

Damn cheek!

[yama]

Can't offer any advice MM - only understanding. My sister and I can be friends as long as I don't respond negatively to her snidey comments or her immature behaviour towards my parents (she's 23).

If I do she takes a tantrum.

I have two brothers and have never had a crossed word with either of them.

Is she the youngest?

[hecate]

Well, sorry but your mum needs to say no. Why is that hard for her? Tell her to pretend that your sis is 5 again, screaming for another lolly! Take back the POWER mumblemummy's mummy!! You wiped this kid's arse for crying out loud!! remember that.

[mumblesmummy]

Yama-sounds v familiar!!

My sister is the oldest though. Shocking eh?

Hecate-I'll keep reminding mum of that.

[yama]

I haven't fallen out with my sister since I was pregnant. As I've already indicated,
this is because I bite my tongue.

Last weekend I answered her back because she insulted my dp (to me, not him though) and swore at me in front of my dd.

I just won't contact her for a while. I will ultimately let it go as I don't want to be the cause of ill-feeling within the family.

Doesn't feel fair and it's not because I get thanked.

Can't believe she's the oldest MM. Does that mean my sister won't grow out of it?

[ladymariner]

Thats appalling, mm, no wondet you're so annoyed. Think its up to your mum to say something but if she can't then you should, your mum is having the mickey taken out of her!!

[munchkinmum]

Yama

She soumnds like a nightmare - why does she pick the meal up and take it home rather than staying for the family meal? Sounds wholly unreasonable and rude. Just wondering what her justification is for this?

Munch
x

[llareggub]

Are you from Mumbles?

[NiftyNanny]

Oh my word, you can't tell someone you're coming over for dinner then turn up and TAKE THE FOOD AWAY TO EAT AT HOME!!

That's insane!

:0

Your sister is soooooooo rude!

If she's driving all the way over to collect it why won't she even stay and eat it there, what an ungrateful witch.

[Elasticwoman]

I'm sorry to say it's your Mum who has Made A Rod For Her Own Back. The more you accept this kind of behaviour, the worse it will get. There's nothing you can do to change your sister's behaviour towards her mother. It's the mother who must change what she's willing to accept.

World War III is not going to start because she finally puts her foot down, although it's difficult to explain why you're not going to do in future what you seem to have done willingly in the past.

[purpleduck]

Yep, your Mum needs to say no.

It is appalling behaviour from your sister.

[mumblesmummy]

Thought so. Just wanted it confirmed. Hoping my mum will say something soon. I've decided to keep being a shoulder for mum to cry and encouraging her to say something until she actually does.

No idea why my sister acts like it, and its one of many things that drive me crazy that she does.

Yama- unfortunately, no, I don't think they do grow out of it!!! Good luck with yours!!

[Carmenere]

Oh FFS, your mum is pathetic and you are an enabler. I wouldn't be giving your mother a shoulder to cry on when she has done such a piss poor job of raising a rude and selfish young woman.
Ha - the thought of even trying to do what your sister does fills me with mirth, firstly my mum would laugh if I asked her to cook me anything and secondly my sisters would rip my head off if I even tried to take advantage of my mother like that.
So what if she has a tantrum, I suspect that this is how she has managed to get away with it so far, you are all scared of her.
Just because your mum can't stand up to her doesn't mean you shouldn't. Tell her where to get off, she just can't justify her behaviour.

[Elasticwoman]

Lol Carmenere, say what you really think why don't you?

[wilbur]

Blimey, I was going to join in with a whinge about my sister refusing to come to my 40th birthday party, but your sister is far more annoying. Am flabbergasted that anyone (over the age of 14) can treat their family like that.

[Elasticwoman]

So tell us Wilbur, why is your sister a party-pooper? Does she have urgent toenails to cut?

[micegg]

If it were my sister I would ahve a word and tell her to grow up.

[wilbur]

Oh she's just her usual self, elasticwoman. She booked a holiday, apparently, just before I told her last December that I was having a party in July this year, and she's tried to change it blah, blah. I realise that sounds a bit harsh, but she's always doing this, and then she tries to make me feel bad for choosing a date she can't make. She suggested I change my party to September and when I said I wanted a Summer party, she just said "well, if that's what you want..." like it's some bizarre wish. If it were anyone else, I would understand the holiday thing, but it's a week in France and she and her dh will have had a ski holiday, 10 days in Antigua, and she is having a retreat in Arizona on her own for 10 days as well before they even get to their summer hols. My parents are dead and cousins live a long way away, so the only living relative I will have there is my half-sister who I met for the first time 3 years ago.

Sorry, that was a bit of a rant. Feel better now. I'm probably just pissed off as I was going to ask her to make me a cake.