DD is 6. ExH has a total disregard for her wellbeing in my opinion but it seems that until she comes to real harm, there's nothing I can do about it. For example:
He lets her play on the street unsupervised
He leaves her at home and in public alone
He's been informed she's slightly overweight so needs to watch her diet. Instead, he challenges her to eat more to the point she has diarrhoea or is sick.
She has three weak teeth that she's been having varnished regularly to try and prevent fillings. He's been told by me and the dentist that she needs to watch her diet and brush properly on several occasions. Still, he gives her access to unlimited fizzy drinks, cakes, sweets etc and doesn'tenencourage her to brush her teeth. Today, the dentist said she's held off as long as possible but fillings are going to be necessary. DD is terrified
Most seriously of all, his girlfriend has a relation (not her son) who is 12. DD is left to play unsupervised with him and his friends and has repeated swear words, wanking and tits over the last few weeks, as well as hinting they bully her by saying they challenge her to do things (I.e. Climb a tree/go in a cupboard) then leave her stuck and laugh. She also has 'sleepovers' with the boy in the same room and bed, being left alone to watch 12/15 certificate films which then give DD nightmares for weeks afterwards. ExH strongly disagrees that it's inappropriate that they share a bed, even though the boy is obviously approaching puberty.
I rang childrens services for advice because after I last spoke to exH about them sharing a bed and DD being left unsupervised, he told her to keep everything that happens at contact a secret. Their advice was pretty much that unless she comes to harm, the above concerns are mine only and it's his prerogative to make those decisions for DD while she's in his care.
I really do feel that contact holds no benefit for her whatsoever - she's left alone/with the older boys/watching films the entire time - and that all it does is put her welfare at risk. AIBU to feel the only solution is to move away?
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PeppaPug · 02/09/2014 22:12
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FabULouse ·
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