This is going to sound really trivial I know, but what would you do in this situation?

[BlueBrightBlue]

A few months ago I lent my bikini to a colleague as she was going on holiday the next day and had forgotten to buy one.
On returning from her break she informed me she hadn't work the bikini as the weather was awful and promised to return it several times.

Fast forward I was forced to resign from my because of lack of support and insidious bullying.
During that time my colleague was very supportive and had also felt she was being manipulated by the management who seemed to take great delight in playing us off against each other. I felt though that she was a good friend and was able to see through all the game playing and so on.

I deactivated my facebook account as my bullying ex boss had befriended me when I took on the job and I was stupid and naïve enough to accept the friend request. I really wanted to put the lid on all those horrible memories of ever working for that company.

Shortly after leaving my job, I continued to text and email my ex colleague suggesting we meet for coffee etc. All messages were unanswered so I came to the conclusion she must have been " warned" by the management not to contact me ( probably some trumped up allegation or whatever, that's how they operate). I decided to make no further attempts to contact her and move on.

Well last night curiosity got the better of me and I took a sneaky peek at my Facebook. There were 3 public posts from this colleague, all sent in the last 3 days, of her wearing my bloody bikini! My £50 bikini!

The photos were not of her lounging on the beach or anything like that, just larking about in the tub with her family, but I get the feeling she was hoping to spark some kind of reaction from me as a lot of her posts were to do with slagging off unnamed colleagues for being fat lazy and incompetent.

I don't want the bikini back, I have not commented on her posts and promptly deactivated my account.

I just feel so betrayed and needed to vent my anger. Sorry if I've bored you all to tears.
:(

[Fudgeface123]

Well I personally wouldn't want a bikini back that someone had borrowed. Ew!

[ditavonteesed]

write the bikini off, ignore and put all these people behind you.

[Fudgeface123]

• I know you said you didn't want it back by the way

[ihatethecold]

Life is too short to worry about nasty people.
You did a nice thing lending her your bikini.
Karma will get her one day.

[DoJo]

She's a twat, plain and simple - whether it was malicious or stupid, do you really care what someone who is that socially inept thinks? It sounds like you are a reasonable, considerate and kind person, whereas it sounds like she needs to do some growing up and getting a grip - who would you rather be?

[mrssmith79]

Go straight to John Lewis or similar, try on the most expensive bikini they sell, take a stunning changing room selfie and post it on Facebook with the caption " glad I donated all my cheap baggy crap to the less fortunate".

*nb. Don't do this, its petty. Just move on and be grateful that you don't live your life by getting your jollies on Facebook like a twelve year old girl in a second hand stolen cossie

[BlueBrightBlue]

I just feel horribly betrayed.
She knows how cruel my employers were to me as she's also been at the receiving end of their nasty underhanded ways.
It's the fact that she has gone to the effort to make this ridiculous display in an attempt to cause me further pain.
I have spoke to her on many occasions about discussing work on facebook and although her comments about other staff are indeed true I think it is unprofessional. My ex boss must have read these comments but somehow chose to ignore them. yet I couldn't even mention someone's name without there being an emergency meeting.
My nerves are still in tatters.

[gentlehoney]

Forget the bikini, forget the girl, forget the job and never ever look at the facebook thing again.

[mrssmith79]

I know it hurts, but she's shown her true colours now and they aren't pretty. Keep reminding yourself that these actions mean that she's no longer the type of person you want in your life.
Its easy to look back and grieve for friendships, brood over good times and be sad over betrayals but it won't help you to move forward. And that's what you need to do now, you've had a vent now look to the future and be grateful that you can now face it without being surrounded by people who aren't worthy of your friendship.

[whois]

Not sure why you have deactivated your account. You can I fiend people you know!

[MintyChops]

She sounds like a twat. Try to forget about her and stay away from her on Facebook. In your head say " I'm so glad I gave my too-baggy bikini to that poor, poor, desperate girl. Now I can buy a fabulous new one".

[GemmaTeller]

I know its annoying but you just need to walk away from it.

You don't need people like this in your life.

[mrssmith79]

who is did you mean for that post to sound quite so sinister!?

[Hollycopter]

But however annoying vaguebooking is, surely she can't be talking about you in the posts?
She must realise you've deactivated your account and she'd hardly call you fat if you're similar sizes in bikinis?

She's been a bitch for not replying to you and but also weird for accepting the loan of a bikini instead of buying it off you. Planning to return it worn is just gross. I think you're way better off without her in your life.

[Castlemilk]

Pity you're deactivated - I wouldn't be able to resist posting something along the lines of 'Hah at the fat digs - assume they're not meant for me or you wouldn't have posted them while wearing my bikini. I'm still waiting for it back, by the way - haven't you got any charity shops round your way? Ones for slimmies, of course.'

[OwlCapone]

Planning to return it worn is just gross

More gross than lending someone a bikini?

[BlueBrightBlue]

The comments she made were not about me. I'm quite slim as is she; and am far from lazy. I know who she was talking about and I agree with everything she says about them but I think it's foolish to discuss it on facebook.
I don't mind lending my bikini, it's washable.
It's the adding insult to injury that really grates.

[Hollycopter]

I was assuming it was unworn... If it's been worn, yes, it's just as gross. Sorry op.

[Hollycopter]

Cross posts. I'm a bit lost then, sorry. But I still vote for ignore, you're well rid.

[GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt]

Knock on her door and get your bikini back. Why should she get a free bikini?

That aside, they all sound like dicks. Unfortunately we all meet many in life.

[SparklyFooted]

Do you lot not have washing machines?