Right, there is a friend who I know through my DP work. We don't live close but we text call each other lots well we did not so much now. I occasionally get a lift with my DP and spend the day with her when he's at work as he commutes everyday to the area they live.
I am 8months pregnant with a girl and have been thinking about names and had put a name on facebook that I was attached too but my DP hated it. A couple of friends commented with a variation of the name that was one letter out that changed the pronoun citation of the name. Think Conner / Conna. Sorry not a great example there. The name I love was a strong boys name but I loved it for a girl. Anyway I spoke to my DP about the suggested name and he really liked it and said it was a great name. The new name is a unisex name but typically a girls name and it's very uncommon in the uk but popular in the states as it's a place name also a sports team name. Anyway I was bored on may leave and posted about thoughts of our new name on fb. I had a pm from this friend just saying please can you not use this name. No explanation nothing. I explained to her we loved the name and plan on using it and if she wanted it for her next baby if she were to have one then that's fine by me as they have the connection to the name as they both go to this place and love the team when they can afford it.
I've also chosen the middle name for bubba and it's my mums middle name that's been in our family for generations. I had a personalise blanket made and put it up on fb to show this friend we are using this name as no one owns a name, I also have my c section booked. Cue a long pm stating that my friend was pregnant last year by accident and they had named the baby very early on my fist name and middle name. The middle name of mine is her partners name but a shortened version now same as mine as it's unisex too. She had to have a termination due to problems didn't say why. No one knew about this pregnancy and the date of her termination last year is the date of my section so the anniversary of her termination. She has begged me not to use the name. I know it is a huge coincidence of the names / date but I love this name. I can understand why she doesn't want me to use it and I respect that but it's my baby's name now we can't decide on anything else. AIBU to still use it? I know the friendship will end if I do but since she found out I was pregnant we haven't really spoke.
What do you lovely lady's think?
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ilovepombears · 31/08/2014 13:08
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