I do not want to come across as a ungrateful grabby cow. I am very fortunate.
Long story shortened.
Husband and me met 15years ago his parents had a rental house that we moved into and paid them going rate rent. After a year we approached them and asked if they would consider us buying the house as we loved it. They said yes, but husbands bad credit/ccjs and low wages from both parts meant we couldn't get a mortgage. They said they would let us buy the house with the money we were paying them rent. So that's what we have done. We are very grateful towards them for the generous offer. We have now 15years later paid off the house.
We are expanding our family so have been looking to move, we are moving very close to the PIL, we got a good valuation on our house but the area we want to move to is expensive so we are pushing our limits with what we can borrow. Mil approached me before our house viewing (I am very close with her we speak every day on the phone and they see the DC often)
She said they had been looking for a rental to set them up for there retirement and would we consider this. They would like to put a good Chunch of there money down as a deposit ( less than the value of our current home) on the new house we were certain we wanted to buy. They we keep the house we are in rent it out then spilt the rental amount we will get with them. (The house has got a good rental fuigure due to the renovations we have done) they were very happy with that arrangement and I was to manage the property for them. We spoke and it sounded a great offer and it means we would able to live comfortably I manage the property and they take half the money. Seemed good.
So we have decided to buy the other house but the owners are not in any hurry to move it could be a long while yet. We have involved them in the process.
We went for another viewing yesterday and FIL came, we met the owners of the house and they showed us round the house. FIL will chat to anybody and was telling them about the property they already own.
In earshot of both of us he said "well we have already bought them a house and now we are buying them this one" the owner of the house looked embarrassed and I was gutted by this comment and bit my tounge thinking we are very fortunate and they have been very generous to us. We left shortly after. When we got home I was very quiet and spoke to husband about it, he said his dad was out of order and that it was very hurtful to him what he said. His mum (who does brag about money / possessions) has been telling all her friends infront of husband that they are buying us a new house. He didn't correct her.
Everyday I speak to MIL she reminds me how lucky we are and says how great full we should be, I reassure her we are very much so. But it is brought up all the time. We have bought them a lovely gift to show them how great full we are but this isn't going to go away they have a hold over us.
Now we are considering talking to them both and telling them we feel worthless and see what happends. But we are really thinking to go with our original plan of selling up and doing it our selfs.
So am I being unreasonable at these comments? Shal we speak to them or put up and shut up?
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PIL have a huge gold over us but was this comment too far
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