Dp has repeatedly dislocated his shoulder over the last 2-3 years, he played lots of basketball and the dislocations started whilst he was playing but now they happen when he does everyday actions. The dislocations whilst doing normal things started about a year ago and I have encouraged him to go to the Dr and talk about an operation to stop the dislocations but dp has been reluctant and he has been doing special excersises to try to stregnthen his shoulder but it doesn't seem to have helped much.
The situation came to a head a couple of nights ago when dp dislocated his shoulder in his sleep by rolling over.
Dp has decided to finally go and see the Dr about his shoulder with the hope of having an operation. If he is referred for the operation (which seems quite likely, his friend had fewer dislocations and was given the operation) the maximum wait would be 90 days, most likely around 6-8 weeks.
I am due to give birth in 9 weeks, with my last pregnancy my blood preasure shot up at around 35 weeks and I had to rest constantly, we now have a toddler so if my blood preasure becomes high again dp will need to take time off work to look after ds. The other issue is driving, dp would possibly not be able to drive to and from the hospital, it's half an hour away so we could get a taxi but there will be lots of taxis to and from with dp taking me, then going home to ds, then coming back, then us all going home, it would probably come to around 200 pounds just in taxi fairs (stupidly expensive taxis where we live!)
AIBU and heartless to ask dp to wait until after the baby is born to have this operation?
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To suggest that my dp delays an opperation he needs because I am due to give birth soon?
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ikeaismylocal · 21/08/2014 10:50
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