MIL- AIBU not to care?

[Lymmmummy]

AIBU to be relieved to have told MIL some home truths even if she is in tears? MIL total unreasonable overemotional type wants to shove her often very unfair opinions down everyone else neck but then flounces off in floods of tears if anyone dare question her etc I have generally tried v hard with her but as it's become clearer over the last 10yrs that she is generally pretty unfair and not one for rational conversations I have really just gradually reduced my effort with her etc I have always avoided being very direct with her firstly out of fear of her becoming all overemotional and out of not wanting to be rude etc this despite me by nature being more if a straight forward type of person.
I have put up with her non stop moaning about herself whilst u was suffering from cancer (she in perfect health having had a very early retirement) and her non stop digs about why we don't visit (she lives a plane or boat journey away) and I had told DH to make it clear that once baby born we would expect people to come to us more - and in fact after initial cancer treatment I did make effort to visit her even though in all honesty often was not well and place they live not exactly in my bucket list (said because some co these visits occurred during period when I was under risk of relapse etc)
Anyways other than her being a general pain - my bone of contention with her is that she seems to think she can be v vocal in making us feel guilty for not visiting her - and is generally judge and jury on everyone else - yet her own daughter (my SIL) has never bothered in 3 yrs to make slightest effort with our son - which I find a bit rude but even worse when they both are v judgemental of others etc v - don't expect SIL to stop her life for DS - but I mean she has not made any effort in 3 yrs ie never visited shown any interest in him etc though she made a big fuss of visiting a rich uncle she and my DH have - yet MIL thinks she can be telling us what is right and wrong
Anyway after a decade if being the grown up and avoiding being direct I just told her today how I felt - and do you know what I don't bloody care!!

[winkywinkola]

Good. You don't care.

But don't post on aibu about it, for god's sake.

She does sound very difficult.

And as for your sil, well, you can't force interest. Does she have dcs you've shown equal disinterest in?

Did you say you had cancer? It's just that your op says 'u'. If it is you, keep strong and healthy and do not expose yourself to stress from the self obsessed.

[winkywinkola]

Fwiw, I too have a sil who can't really be bothered with visiting any new children we have but is very attentive to the wealthy, ancient aunt with the Lear jet!

[Lymmmummy]

Not bothered with SIL in that appreciate we all are different her loss - just think MIL has bleeding cheek to criticise us when her own daughter can't be arsed to her grandchild etc and got fed up of pussyfooting around the issue