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AIBU?

To want to Karate chop DH's arse off the sofa?

26 replies

MrsWinnibago · 01/08/2014 12:36

I really, really want to do it.

He's got a week off work and he's spent it superglued to the sofa watching shite on his laptop.

He literally sits there ALL FUCKING DAY!

We went out on the weekend with the DC and ok he did take the DC swimming and to the opticians yesterday but otherwise he's just sat there.

I want to scream at him.

I keep fantasising about chopping him off the sofa in the manner of Bruce Lee.

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YouTheCat · 01/08/2014 12:39

He's on holiday.

CoffeeTea103 · 01/08/2014 12:40

Yabu, he's on holiday. If I had a few days off to just do nothing I would live it, and hate if anyone was nagging me.

ThursdayLast · 01/08/2014 12:43

I LOVE the image of someone being Karate chopped off the sofa Grin

Numanoid · 01/08/2014 12:44

He's on holiday, YABVU. Sometimes I don't feel like doing much on my days off.

hesterton · 01/08/2014 12:45

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Icimoi · 01/08/2014 12:46

He presumably works at least 7 hours a day the rest of the time, plus the commute etc? Let him relax.

glenthebattleostrich · 01/08/2014 12:49

So when does op get her holiday sitting on her arse?

They have kids to look after to, why should that fall exclusively to the op?

One day sitting around,fine. Then he needs to pull his weight

TalisaMaegyr · 01/08/2014 12:49

And when does the OP get to relax? I'm assuming that she's running around doing housework and looking after dc Hmm

I work full time, and if I have a day/week off, I want to relax too, but I still have to help with the house stuff!

TalisaMaegyr · 01/08/2014 12:49

X posted there glen [grin[

CarbeDiem · 01/08/2014 12:55

If he's on holiday from work then he deserves a few days down time. I can see it would drive you crazy if he done nothing with the Dc/family but he has.
Suggest something to do together for the weekend.

YouTheCat · 01/08/2014 12:56

But he has done things. He took the kids swimming and to the opticians.

Has the OP asked him to do any jobs/help with stuff? Or is she assuming he has psychic powers?

glenthebattleostrich · 01/08/2014 12:58

Great minds talisa!

Why should the op have to ask him to be a grown up and take full part of family life?

TalisaMaegyr · 01/08/2014 13:03

He's taken them swimming and been to the optician CarbeDiem. In a WEEK.

CarbeDiem · 01/08/2014 13:09

Plus out last weekend Talisa in the same WEEK.

Unless op has specifically requested him to do stuff that he's ignored/refused or they've had a conversation previously about him sitting around on his days off then I don't see the problem.

Numanoid · 01/08/2014 13:34

Why are some posters assuming the OP doesn't work at all?

HumphreyCobbler · 01/08/2014 13:37

you don't need special powers to cook a meal, wash up, tidy round the house. You just need to do your share. Since having children, neither DH or I have EVER just sat there and done nothing.

Floccinaucinihilipilificate · 01/08/2014 13:55

Some very odd responses here. In what world is it ok for an adult to sit on his arse on the sofa all day, assuming family life is going on around him. OP should not have to tell him to do things. The default setting should be do what needs to be done, take part, and then both adults can have time to relax when it's possible.

CerealMom · 01/08/2014 13:58

If he'd wanted a 'quiet week' then why book time off during the kids holidays?

TalisaMaegyr · 01/08/2014 15:46

I can't believe that some people think it's ok for a parent to spend pretty much a whole week sitting on their arse!

OP, come on, enlighten us. Do you work? Are you exaggerating about how little he's done this week? Because if this is true, I would be very pissed off indeed and I would have to tell him so.

ElephantsNeverForgive · 01/08/2014 15:59

Arse sitting and down time depends totally on age of DCs and relative physical and mental demands of his work vs OPs work, household, child care duties.

I'm a SAHM to teen DDs who entertain themselves and even do a bit of cooking and tidying. If DH wants to sit in his study and chill for some part of his holidays, that's fine.

All of them is not fine, because there are certain DIY and garden jobs that aren't my domain. Also spending some time with your family is simply polite and necessary.

However, however many hours he worked, when the DDs were small, he was required to spend a lot more family time than one morning in a week.

Small DCs do my head, I'm 100% certain working was easier, than entertaining small DCs also they are really boring, from perhaps 8 DCs become quite good company, toddlers just try to destroy their environment and kill themselves.

DoJo · 01/08/2014 17:19

Has the OP asked him to do any jobs/help with stuff?

Presumably he is aware that there are children living in their house, so surely he could make a reasonable guess that they will need supervision. The OP might even have thought that he would like to spend some time with his kids if he is usually at work all day.

TalisaMaegyr · 01/08/2014 18:06

Exactly DoJo

Why do people think that these men need to be mollycoddled into seeing what needs to be done? Do we need to be told? Drives me mad.

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MrsWinnibago · 01/08/2014 20:23

Sorry I disappeared! Life got in the way. To answer questions...>DH works full time and I work part time from home.

I am finding it hard with him here as he's not being very good re looking after DC....we've had a good talk though and turns out he's been feeling very tired...unnaturally so...I realise looking back that he's not been himself for about a month. He's vegan (quite recent) and I suspect he's iron deficient.

He's agreed to get a blood test.

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CerealMom · 02/08/2014 00:03

As a veggie I usually take a good multi vit and extra B vits. Try Solgar brand.

MrsWinnibago · 02/08/2014 00:06

He's convinced he only needs to eat the right foods to be ok but he doesn't eat them in high enough quantities. I'm so irritated that he won't get supplements. Thanks Cereal is there something I can buy with iron in it do you think? He won't go to the GP.

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