My sister and I normally get on fairly well. She has three kids and I have 2 with one on the way. We each have a three year old dd.
We were at a family picnic in the park recently - about ten adults and ten kids.
At one point the adults were all chatting and suddenly her 3 year old dd was crying because my dd pushed her. I immediately said I'm so sorry and that I would talk to my dd. My sister said loudly that "actually, that's the second time she has pushed her".
I went to talk to my dd and I could hear my sister behind me saying to the rest of the family that this sort of thing happened all the time when the two girls were together. This is news to me! I thought they got on well - the occasional squabble over toys like all kids that age but my dd has never pushed her dd before.
On talking to my dd she said that the other girl had been trying to take her comforter and so she pushed her - I explained this was wrong and made her apologise to her cousin.
I didn't challenge my sister on the comment about how this was always happening between the two girls - I just felt very hurt and we didn't talk to each other for the rest of the day as there were a lot of people there.
On thinking about it there have been a few incidences where my sister has spoken sharply to my dd or suggested she has been bold when I don't believe she has - all petty things. I know that she was bold to push her cousin at the park but it was a one off and my sister made out to the rest of the family (who wouldn't see the girls that often) like it was a regular thing.
Its been going around in my head since. I think I should say something to my sister - not be confrontational but simply say I think you have been unfair to my dd. My dd is a quiet child who is usually well behaved - when she does do something she shouldn't I always make her apologise. Would you say something?
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Amber76 · 01/08/2014 11:29
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