To ask my neighbour what her problem is?

[CripesItsTheGasMan]

Me and DP bought our house over a year ago in a nice quiet area. Our 3 immediate neighbours all were welcoming and luckily we get on well etc etc

One of the immediate neighbours of the 3 are a couple in their 60s. The man is lovely and we know his adult children. His wife however just mystifies me. She is overly nice to DP , goes out of her way to talk to him, will sit on the step and talk to him whilst he's trying to get on with gardening and other jobs and will generally be chatty and cheerful.

With me OTOH she is stand offish, rude and will hardly even look at me. I really am lovely , honest

I always say hello how are you ? And I will always be met with a very abrupt fine...or hi and she basically runs in the house. This happened again yesterday but it was way more rude and I just want to demand what her problem is with me

Me and DP have actually joked that she fancies him as she has made some quite odd comments to him. For example he told her he was having his eyes lasered and she said 'oh that's a shame I like a man with glasses'.

I will add that we're late 20s. I know you'll say ignore her but I want to get on with my neighbours seeing as the other ones are lovely.

Anyone else's neighbours mind boggling !?

[WorraLiberty]

It does sound as though she fancies him

[ThatBloodyWoman]

Mmm.
I too think she has her sights on him.

Not a lot you can do really unless she oversteps the mark.

[matildasquareded]

It absolutely sounds like Mrs. Robinson fancies him, bless her!

[matildasquareded]

We have an acquaintance like that. Lo-o-o-ves my husband, doesn't have the time of day for me. What can I do? I'm just polite and get on with life.

My husband told me that she once said to him, "You know, you've got a good woman there."

I thought it was hilarious. I'm sure she meant, "... but if you ever want a bad woman..."

[LizardBreath]

I really think you must live the other side of my neighbour. The change in her attitude to me v's partner is crazy! Her husband is lovely to everyone which makes it more odd.

Neighbour happened to come up in conversation with previous house owner and she behaved in exactly the same way! Came to conclusion she can't like women in general. Very odd.

[CripesItsTheGasMan]

Oh dear , I do have some competition then

Glad it's not just me this has happened to. Me and DP are pretty much exactly the same personality wise. We're very laid back , happy, chatty etc so I couldn't put it down to that.

Don't want to call her weird as such but she's pretty much 'out there'

DP says to ignore her and carry on being polite .

She's always trying to get him in the house to fix stuff . He obviously finds it funny.

Oh god, has anyone ever had a neighbour be a bit too overlyfriendly ??

[matildasquareded]

"Oh it's just so hot outside and I can't get this li'l ol' fan to work. Won't you come in and fix it for me? I'll give you a nice cool lemonade."

Your husband is doomed. Doomed!

[Theherbofdeath]

Could it be that she thinks women aren't important, whereas men deserve to be treated nicely by women?

[MorphineDreams]

Or instead of fancying your DH, she might actually be jealous of you?

[Sparklypants]

Or maybe she fancies you! (Think back to the playground, it was always the boys (or girls) that were mean who fancied you)

[matildasquareded]

There's your novel!

[GemmaTeller]

Where we lived before the woman over the road was like this with us, wouldn't even say hello to me but all chatty with DH - silly mare.

[CripesItsTheGasMan]

DP always finds excuses not to go in thank god. He went in once but since she's made quite odd remarks he tries not to.

Jealous of me? Probably because I'm 40 years younger yes but I'm not that interesting. I've told DP to tone down the topless gardening now

[CripesItsTheGasMan]

Like some of you said , she may just get on with men better and generally don't like women, but a friendly hello isn't hard to do.

[StrawberryGashes]

I agree with the others, she fancies him. It can't be that you've done something to upset her as by the sounds of it you've hardly had a chance to even talk to her.


I get on with the husband next door and chat to him but I don't talk to the wife at all. That is because he is lovely and very friendly though and she is a nasty, rude, horrid woman.

[albertcamus]

My neighbour is 96. We both love her dearly, despite her rebellious smoking habit, she's a great laugh and looks about 70. With me she will have a brief chat, but when it comes to my DH (60 year old 20 stone rugby player) she comes over v v coy and engages him in looooong conversation etc. If she kindly takes in a parcel for us, she waits for him to get home from work (after me) so that she can get him indoors !!!

[Shonajay]

My neighbour hates me, and is generally snotty and horrible. However, she will shout "yoo hoo" to hubby on his way home from work, she fancies him rotten and I'm not good enough. If she can manage it with a dicky ticker and a hip in plaster, more power to her.

I had cancer a couple of years ago, she sent me a bouquet of dead red roses....

[deakymom]

i get this from a lass who child goes to the same school as mine she used to speak to me then she met my dh now im mud and he is a golden boy i take the pee royally he hides when he sees her is so strange to see her beaming smile become oh so brittle when she notices im with MY OWN HUSBAND!

[CripesItsTheGasMan]

shonajay how awful!!

Some neighbours are odd ay. The only conversations I've had with her are when DP is present, she's never been rude to me when he's there.

Her and her DH have a 'different' relationship so maybe she's trying to get attention from younger men. It's laughable and I actually feel sorry for her.