to be infuriated by DHs inability to make any decisions, ever?

[TractorTam]

DH is laid-back, which I appreciate, but it's getting to the point where he never ever makes a single decision and refers absolutely everything to me. For example, if I ask what he thinks we should have for dinner - I don't mind, you choose. If we both need a shower and I ask if he wants to go first - don't mind, you choose. Even at traffic lights, he'll ask which way I think he should go even though both ways go to our destination! What shall we do in the holidays? Don't mind. And repeat.

He even has me responsible for making the kids decisions. For example, does DD want a drink? I have no idea, bloody ask her!! It works the other way round too as he won't answer the kids questions. For example, DD asked if he'd take her to a different part of the park earlier. He wouldn't answer, so she came and asked me if he could take her to the other part! DD stood not brushing her teeth when she's supposed to be doing so, he just stands watching rather than making the decision to say anything. It is always my responsibility to decide everything - days out, food, discipline, bed time, bath time etc. and it infuriates me. AIBU to think everything shouldn't fall to me?

[thenightsky]

I used to go out with a bloke like that. Dumped him, married and had kids with one who knew what he wanted

Sorry, I'm no help.

[TractorTam]

Even in bed - where do you want me? What shall I do? Just shut up!!

[LastTango]

I had a best friend like this. She used to stay, with her son, every weekend. Her stock answer was "if you want to" or "I don't mind". About absolutely everything from where to go to what to eat. It drove me absolutely potty. I was glad she stopped coming in the end.

[NotOneThingbutAnother]

My "D"H does that but I wonder if its a bit more extreme- he does it so that he can blame me for everything. (Wish I'd done what nightsky did but 25 years too late now)

[Teddybeau1988]

My DH is similar. I blame his mother who smothers and micro manages everything for him and his brother, who is exactly the same.

Uanbu, although I bet he would complain if anything goes Peter tong.