giving in to ds when he was overtired

[6031769]

not sure if i was unreasonable or not.

We've had a really really busy weekend, one of the fullest for ages, and ended up with a late night for DS age 4.2 tonight, it was 9.30 when he went to bed when he was actually tired enough to have gone to bed around 5pm as it had been such a busy day, but it was actually gone 9 when we got home, a one off and he's not got pre school tomorrow as its the holidays.

He was listening to one of his cd's in the car and we said did he want to listen to it when he was in bed (he always goes to sleep with music cd on) but he said no he wanted his usual one on.

Anyway by time was putting him bed he was really over tired and started crying for really illogical things- he said it would be too cold if he went to iceland and started sobbing!! He's never like this. Anyway DH read him story and then when he put DS in bed and put on usual cd and ds said he wanted cd he'd had on in the car. DH says no you should have said when we asked earlier tough now, cue total meltdown, DS getting more and more wound up, DH getting wound up by DS.

I said to DH just get the cd, he says no, we're making a rod for our own back giving in etc etc. I said its not the night for this, DS is over tired, we're all tired.

Anyway ended up getting the cd and DS was asleep with 2 mins.

So WIBU? Usually i would back DH up but we were all tired and i just wanted DS asleep so we could all relax, also IMO DS was too overtired to understand any point DH was trying to make.

[Teddybeau1988]

On this occasion yanbu. It was not a usual routine weekend, let it go.

[deakymom]

your tired the kid is tired its just a CD not cream cakes and ice cream

[Koothrapanties]

Yanbu, I'm a firm believer in picking your battles, and that was not one that needed fighting. It's not a normal situation, ds was not thinking rationally. There is no point trying to reason with a child who is that tired.

[scarffiend]

No, in that situation I would have done exactly the same. Giving him what he Asks for when he us exhausted isn't the same as handing him chocolates every time he asks for them. IMO.

[stealthsquiggle]

YANBU. There is no "making a rod for your own back" aspect here. Chances are DS won't even remember it in the morning, and when they are that tired they are way, way beyond reason.

[GoingToBedfordshire]

I would have done the same and have done similar in that situation.

[indigo18]

Common sense prevails. You really don't need to ask on here.

[6031769]

thanks for the comments has made me feel abit happier about over ruling DH!

I'm now sitting having a glass of wine and mumsnetting and DH has gone for a pint so we're both getting some relaxing time when we could have been up with a screaming 4 year old till midnight!

[PogoBob]

YANBU - have done similar in this type of situation with 4yo DD.

DH and I do operate boundaries, consistency etc. in normal situations but when DD is overtired she becomes completely emotional and has been know to scream to the point of shaking or being ill (she is quite 'sensitive' as it is but seems to feel more confident in clear boundaries).

Always maintaining boundaries no matter what doesn't help anyone. Enjoy your wine.

[GodDamnBatman]

Choose your battles. Not every battle will be worth fighting with your kid over.

There's no point in arguing with someone who can't be reasoned with.

[MamaLazarou]

YANBU - I would have done the same. Sometimes the path of least resistance is best for everyone.