to be fed up with DHs lack of initiative?

[lastnightIwenttoManderley]

I seriously need to vent...

DH and I are renting our house out as of next month; he's relocating for work and so we'll be renting there. Can't afford to risk jumping off the housing ladder and then being stuck, hence rental of ours.

I have pretty much arranged everything to do with the move. Not because I have more time (DH has more time than I do) but because I just get on with it and do it whereas DH makes a right palaver and fuss about the simplest thing. Not to me, I should add, just gets uppity and lots of huffing and puffing and shouting at inanimate objects.

As he has more time, I asked him to arrange getting professional cleaners in, oven cleaned and also getting the carpets cleaned. Relatively straightforward tasks...
I also gave a date range for the cleaning, as we want to do some touching up of the paint etc before the tenants come in so as any sensible adult would think we should get the cleaning done after this.

DH has arranged the carpet cleaning for the week before the weekend we are doing the painting. When I said 'but what about the decorating?' his response was 'I don't see why that has to happen first'. I (calmly) answered why, at which point his reaction was 'well it's sorted now I'm not changing it'. For the record, it's not that he can't change it, just that it's 'hassle' (or = making one phone call). I then ask how much it will be and he says 'well, same as last time'. We had the carpets in ONE room cleaned 18 months ago due to a friend spilling red wine. He's just arranged to have the one room cleaned. Again, I point out that we need the whole house doing and rather than 'oh, crap, sorry! I'll sort it', the response I get is one of a tantrum-ing toddler 'well you didn't say it was the whole house'.

Also turns out he's arranged to pay someone £65 to come and clean the oven 'but not the grill racks, extractor or hob'. So, just the bit that's cleanest then.

I get that people are different, I understand that we all have different ways of doing things and that's fine. But what drives me up the wall is that DH just does some half arsed attempt, without thinking, and then apparently it's all my fault for not giving explicit instructions. He's an adult FFS, why should I know any better than he does? AIBU to expect him to be able to use his own brain and think?

At this moment in time I'm seriously considering telling him to go to the new house all by himself.

[lastnightIwenttoManderley]

[Leeds2]

That would piss me off too.

Although, tbf, if we were relocating because of his work, I would've made him do all of the necesarry work.