to second guess my decision re dc going away for a week

[IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow]

I got married a couple of weeks ago. Me & dh cant stretch to going away for a honeymoon, so my dm offered to take dc away for the week. They have booked a holiday at a seaside town about 1hour from us.
Me & Dh will have the week with no commitments ( Im a sahm & dh has booked the week off work) However, I am now worried about dd. She is 15months and never spent the night away. The older 2 are excited, and a lot older.
Dd is clingy towards me, and Im worried she will wonder we are, be out of routine and so, will spend the week confused & upset(?) Im also kind of sad that our bond will be broken.
Am wondering whether to just send my ds now, as they are massively looking forward to it. However,, we have not had, or will ever get, this chance again. Anyone been in a similar situation?

[ikeaismylocal]

I'm not in a similar situation but I have a 19 month old who I don't want to leave for the night to give birth as I don't think I'll be relaxed and focused knowing he is upset and confused. My ds1 still co-sleeps which is my main worry, I'm no concerned about the daytimes.

Is it mainly the nigh times your worried about? Or the length of time, or just the whole thing? With the holiday being so close you could have some flexibility and just send your toddler for a couple of nights, or take her just for a few days and you and dp could do daytrips aroundd where she is and collect her at bedtime. You could always just send her and call everyday and if you feel she is not happy you could just collect her.

You bond won't be broken

[Notso]

Congratulations

My 17 month old went to stay with PIL for a week when DC4 was a month old to give me a chance to sleep. My older two DC were in school. I was a bit worried about him going, I didn't want him to think he was being sent away because the baby had replaced him but he had a great time.

How well does she know your DM? Has she been looked after by her before?

[fledermaus]

If she knows her grandmother well and will be with her brothers then she will be fine!

[IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow]

Tha

[IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow]

Tha

[Floralnomad]

Its only an hour away you could always go and get her if she is not happy after a couple of days .That said if you think it would be nicer for your older children if you keep her at home then do that .

[IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow]

Not sure what happened there? [Confused]
That seems a good middle ground ikea
She doesnt see my dm that often as she lives abroad.. recently moved. Perhaps once every few months. Ds know her better.

[Purplepoodle]

Firstly she will be fine. She is only an hour away, worse case scenario you go and pick her up if she won't settle.

[KillmeNow]

Let her go .

As they will only be an hour away you can go and get her if she doesnt settle. She will have the comfort of her older siblings and they can tell your Dm of her likes and dislikes if necessary.

It will be an exciting time for them all and a good time for you and Dh to spend together.

Your Dm is offering a wonderful chance for you to expand your boundaries now Dd is old enough to spend a little time .Take it -at least for part of the week anyway.

[IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow]

Thank you, everyone who replied. Feel slightly better about it all..

[lanbro]

We went away the other weekend for two nights leaving2yo and 10mo with gps. The eldest stays regularly so no worries there but the youngest had never been away from me for more than a few hours, and only a couple of timestat that. Was very worried and we were 4 hrs drive away. Plus she has never taken to formula and couldn't express!

Anyway, not only did she not cry all weekend apart from a few wimpers, she went to bed no problem and slept even longer than at home! She drank formula and was basically a dream! I don't think my parents have fibbed to me, was so relieved and they've said they'd do it again anytime, a load of worry for nothing

[biscuitsandbandages]

You dont know until you try but she isnt going alone and will be quite securely attached to her big brother by now.

Ive been in hospital most of the time since dd was 8weeks. She is now 5months. I hqve aeen her for an hour or so most days. She recognises me on skype and my voice on the phone. Our bond is still strong. Dont worry.

[LastTango]

Let her go. You and your new (congrats) husband NEED some time together without the children, surely?

[LokiBear]

I'm sure your little one will be fine. However, I completely understand where you are coming from. My DD is almost 3 and as much as I love to have the odd night away from her whilst she is spoiled rotten at the grandparents, I'm itching to have her back the next day. I couldn't cope with being away from her for a week. She is my pfb though. Perhaps you should start planning things you are going to do with your child free time? That way you can get excited instead of feeling down. Enjoy your time and congratulations on your wedding!