DC are 10 and 12. Just dropped them at the airport, with my parents, sister and her brood (to whom they're very close as her DC are similar ages). They're going away for two weeks holiday while DH and I stay home to work.
DC have been excited and I know they'll have a great time but they were sobbing so much when I left. I'm still crying now. Longest they've been away before is four nights.
Am I being selfish?
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To be a sobbing mess because DC have gone away for two weeks?
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OvertiredandConfused · 25/07/2014 21:50
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trashcanjunkie ·
25/07/2014 22:03
Now c'mon! They will be fine, they're gonna have an ace time, and you are going to remember what life was like before they came... in a good way. No need to rush straight home from work, you can call dp and go out for impromptu dinners, glasses of wine, in little pavement cafes, on the weekend, sleep late, eat cakey bread products and drink good coffee and shag til midday, or get up early and bugger off for a day out somewhere just lovely and grown up, and not worry about getting back in time for... anything.
I say all this as a single parent, and although my eldest (who's now left home) was with me constantly growing up, my twins, who're nine, have always gone to stay with their dad since they were tiny tots. Now they have younger brothers at his place they spent large chunks of time away from home - during the summer hols we often do a week at a time each. At first I felt lost, but now I have a whale of a time, being ME, not just someones mum. You are a person in your own right. Go and find out who she is 
Hebburnisaplaceonearth ·
25/07/2014 22:10
Selfish would be sobbing on the phone to them telling them how much you miss them. Having a cry to yourself is completely reasonable!
Why don't you plan a nice surprise for when they get back? Plus enjoy some time with your DH while you can and remind each other why you had those lovely children
Ragwort ·
25/07/2014 22:19
All families are different though - too right, my DS is away for a few days and I am relishing the time alone 
. these sorts of threads always make me feel guilty in that I actually enjoy my own company and am delighted my DS is old enough and confident enough to go off with friends.
Ragwort ·
25/07/2014 22:38
Combust - I expect we probably spend too much time together as a family - although DH does some travelling with work he is based at home, I only work three days (often weekends though) and just having an 'only' child means that we are quite centred on supporting his activities all the time so it is nice to have a break .
Everard ·
25/07/2014 22:44
I don't mind my children having a few nights away from me. I miss them, even if only one goes, I will miss the one, but I enjoy the freedom I have without them too.
What I meant was, I wouldn't want my children going on holiday without me if that was their only holiday for that year. Now that I see the OP has said they are going away as a family in a couple of weeks, I think that puts a different complexion on things. I am sure once you hear that they are safely arrived and having fun, you will be able to start enjoying a little me time. 
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