DS1 is 4.2 and we started potty training 14 months ago.
It's never been an easy journey, and we've gone backwards and forwards ever since - he'll be fine for weeks and months at a time then suddenly regress for no apparent reason.
DS starts school in September and right now he's barely getting anything in the toilet - the best we can hope for a lot of the time is a semi-accident and the rest in the toilet.
In the past, I've done the whole endless-positivity-and-star-charts-and-no-negative-comment and it simply doesn't work - there are no consequences so nothing changes. We've found the best combination is a sweet for using the loo and/or a star chart, combined with taking a favoured toy away for a day or two when things get bad - a carrot AND stick approach.
Right now NOTHING is working and it's getting worse. This evening I've lost it, thrown all his pants out, put his current star chart in the bin, sent the star chart reward (some highly desired Lego) back and said tomorrow he's wearing nappies and if he can't use the toilet then he can't go to school with his friends (which he's really excited about).
FWIW I try to make sure he has a safe and secure environment, knows he is loved and that it's unconditional. I don't think there is a medical problem as he can be dry and clean for several months, and this regression pre-dates any discussion about school so not related to that.
So AIBU to have resorted to shock tactics even though all the professional advice is against it? Feeling like a really, really crap Mum right now so please be a tiny bit gentle!
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RumbleMum · 24/07/2014 20:38
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