To not want a bike?

[cithkadston]

DH likes to buy things, and every so often he will decide that we need something, will buy it, and then moan at me when I don't use it! I am talking things like smoothie makers, a toastie maker, and various other gadgets.

He has now decided that he wants to get me a bike! I don't particularly want a bike; school is within very close walking distance, I am able to drive, and I exercise regularly so don't need any extra exercise. DH says it will be nice if I could bike with the DCs to school every day. Which again I don't want to do as it's just a bit of extra faff every day, which when the school is practically across the road is just unnecessary.

I have told DH that I don't want a bike, but he has just phoned me again and told me he's going to look at one from gumtree for me on his way home. I am expected to be grateful.

I have just told him that as I have said before I don't want a bike, and if he does get me one regardless not to start moaning at me when I don't use it, because I know that that is what will happen. He will bring it up in an argument and make out I am ungrateful.

He is now cross because I have said that to him.

AIBU not to want one?

[WhatsGoingOnEh]

No, you're not BU. He is.

[whois]

Um, you're clearly not being U! Maybe get him something he doesn't want, and have a go when he doesn't use it?

[ThatBloodyWoman]

Can I have it?

I'd love one but every time I scrabble a bit of money together to get one, a school trip needs paying for or the fridge breaks down.

I know what you mean though -when dh gets me flowers I'd prefer a contribution to the bike fund!

[sunbathe]

Could you point out how much money he is throwing away on useless gadgets?

[Birdsgottafly]

I bought a bike on a Asda deal, it sits in my shed, the spiders love it, though.

YANBU.

He has no right to tell you what you should be doing/want.

[Topseyt]

Your husband is being idiotic. You have clearly told him how you feel about a bike, and he should respect that.

My husband loves bikes. I don't and won't go on one. He did offer to get me one once, but listened and took note when I told him that I was unlikely ever to ride it. I feel to vulnerable on them so will no longer get onto one. For exercise I walk several miles most days with my two dogs, a labrador and a cocker spaniel.

You are not being ungrateful if you never use something you didn't want in the first place.

[rollonthesummer]

I'd be really pissed off if I were you. I'd speak to him and have a mini rant along the lines of:

I don't want a bike. It would take twice as long to get to school biking rather than walking. If you get me a bike, I won't use it. If you buy me a bike anyway and moan because I don't use if, I will be really pissed off with you.

[MotherOfInsomniacToddlers]

Yanbu!! But if he really wants to buy one I need one :-P

[Hurr1cane]

Can I have one? DS loves bikes and I keep nicking DPs ridiculously expensive road bike to take him riding and I'm super paranoid I'm going to break it and he's going to murder me in my sleep or something.

Anyway. Tell him that buying a bike off gumtree and the like is not a very good idea if you aren't really clued up because they can have loads of things wrong with them or not have been looked after properly and can end up costing just as much to sort out.

If your DP wants to buy me a bike he can go to the really good second hand bike shop down the road and name drop DP so he gets me a really good one.

Thanks

[Hurr1cane]

Your DH even.

[Shockers]

I'm waiting for my new bike that I'm getting on the cycle to work scheme. I wish it would hurry up, my old one is not useable at the mo and I can't afford to fix it.

[LikeTheShoes]

you could go for bike rides with DC on weekends etc. But only if you want to!